Nothing can help you deal with the tragedy of losing a loved one. Ask actor Soha Ali Khan who lost her father, India’s legendary cricketer Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi, seven months ago. Reluctantly, talking about her loss for the first time, Soha opens up. “There are certain things that change you forever. I don’t want to get over with it. Birth and death happen every day. But it doesn’t affect one as much as when it happens to those close to you,” she says.
“Dad had always inspired me,” says Soha, adding that Pataudi had lost vision in one eye at the start of his cricketing career when he was just 20. His tale, Soha says, was an exemplar of the triumph of the human spirit. He overcame the disability, went on to become the captain to the Indian cricket team.
The loss of Tiger Pataudi seems to have changed Soha for the better.
She says, “Since dad, there have been so many deaths. It has made me more sensitive and aware about how final life is.” Ask her if time has healed the sadness and she says, “It’s impossible to get over a loved one’s death. I don’t want to forget, get over or make my peace with it now or later. I wanted it to change me as a person. It changed my perspective on what is important in life and what isn’t.”
The actor also admits that earlier, she was far more involved in day-to-day things like making money, being successful and dealing with the stresses of life like buying a house and putting on weight. But now she makes it a point to have a balance.