"Kristen was feeling low - the lowest she's ever felt - when Rob flew to Australia so when he left, she reached out to Rupert to see if he was okay and suggested meeting for a coffee," a source said.
However, Sanders reportedly refused her offer of a meet-up, with Pattinson also finding out himself through a mutual friend.
She allegedly contacted Sanders two weeks ago in order to "talk to someone who was going through the same thing".
The director is currently going through a divorce from his wife of ten years Liberty Ross.