Strange as it may sound, but it’s the gay guys who are scoring over straight men in some cases when it comes to marriage worthiness. Sick of lecherous, two-timing, aggressive men who tromp over their feeling, some women are opting for a ‘safer option’ — marrying gay men, who are believed to be more sensitive and caring.
Sample this: When 26-year-old artist Tania Singh met photographer Aryan Khanna, everything seemed to click, except sexual chemistry. But that didn’t deter Tania from falling for the “ever-so-organised and ultra caring” Aryan. Soon she discovered he was gay. But instead of dumping him, Tania went ahead and married him.
“It doesn’t matter that he is gay. He is the most loving guy I’ve ever met. He never thrusts his choices on me. When you love someone truly, physical needs lose their importance.” There are others sailing in the same boat. “My ex, who was straight, dumped me for another woman. I am now married to a very caring gay man. I know he will never go after other woman. It’s better than suffering an abusive relationship with an adulterous straight man,” says lawyer Nivedita Guha. And the thought that her husband may be sleeping with other men doesn’t really bother her. “It’s still a better deal than catching him with other women,” she says.
Psychologist Pulkit Sharma says gay men are in touch with their feminine and sensitive side, which could draw women towards them. “Several women look for a person with whom they can share their inner world — this may be hard to do with heterosexual men who carve out a ruthless masculine identity,” he says.
(Certain names have been changed on request)