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Lovelorn for life

brunch Updated: Jun 06, 2013 11:07 IST
Navleen Lakhi
Navleen Lakhi
Hindustan Times
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Both of them like to indulge each other by little gestures that mean a lot. For instance, Simrat started wearing suits because Golz (as she lovingly calls Dalvir Singh Khangura ‘Goldy’) likes her better in them. Similarly, Goldy wears a moustache because that is how she prefers him. Simrat and Goldy, who met as undergraduate students almost 11 years ago in SD College, Sector 32, love was more important than all other inhibitions that mar budding romances, including shyness and uncertainty.

The passionate love story began as love at first sight for Simrat, she says. But, the friendship was initiated by Goldy, who recalls, “I was in the third year of graduation and she had just joined college. In 2002, I contested and won the elections for the post of a president. I learnt that Simrat belongs to Malerkotla and that her father had contested elections from Dhuri, where I belong, so I thought as individuals from the same region, we should befriend each other.” Little did Goldy know that not just Simrat, but also her best friend had fallen for Goldy. “My best friend and I had a crush on him but we decided that we would settle amongst ourselves who’d get to keep him and not sacrifice our friendship.

So, after being friends with Goldy for some months, Simrat took the first step and proposed to him. “I was under the impression that he liked my best friend more, since they talked often. But, he later told me that he was interested in me and was hesitant because of his shy nature,” she smiles.

The two met at a gurudwara in Sector 44 and set the guidelines for the relationship. Goldy says, “Apart from confessing her love for me, she proposed we should take the relationship to marriage.

I was also honest about the problems that I apprehended in the relation and told her that though she belonged to a financially well-off family, she might have to lead a simple life as my wife. I also made it clear that we would not be staying in Chandigarh, but eventually return to my village.” Eventually, Goldy’s simplicity, straightforward behaviour and loyalty won Simrat over.

Their love affair was rather adventurous. “Many girls liked Goldy, so I gave them a tough time,” she laughs, adding, “I was a part of the college’s giddha team. Once, during a rehearsal, I ended up in a fight with a girl who kept hitting on Goldy despite knowing that we were dating. I was so enraged that I hit her with a metal bucket.” While Goldy was left to sort the issue, he secretly didn’t mind her possessive attitude. Simrat says unlike the present times, there was no Facebook, Whatsapp or BBM to connect on. “I had a mobile phone and he used a phone booth near his hostel to talk with me the entire night.”

Despite initial opposition by Simrat’s parents, the couple tied the knot on March 1, 2008, and are now parents to a four-year-old son. In their four years of togetherness, Simrat and Goldy have come up with an NGO that they run for the needy. Meanwhile, Goldy continues to try and make a mark in state politics. “Last year, I was planning to contest elections for the seat of MLA as an independent candidate. Simrat helped me throughout and even campaigned for me in 56 out of 72 villages in Sangrur district. Both of us actually managed to gather 6,000 supporters at a rally we took out,” states Goldy. As he prepares for another set of elections, Simrat says she tried her best to support him in his political career. “Goldy aims to be an MLA, but I wish to see him as the chief minister of Punjab,” she smiles.

Crack the chemistry

Each other's annoying habits
He is always on the phone. I also find it annoying when he keeps bumping into acquaintances when we go out.
Goldy: Her habit of nagging me for certain things.

Issues you fight about
I like talking to him but his phones and meetings keep him busy.
Goldy: That I don’t give her enough time.

Who says sorry first
Initially, I used to but now he does
Goldy: I say it

You both agree on...
There are a lot of struggles in life, but each other's support makes things easier.
Goldy: Hard work is very important. Our life’s struggle has taught us that

You share love for

Who bosses around
Goldy: I do

Relationship advice
All relationships need a lot of adjustment, compromise and beyond everything, trust.
Goldy: None of the partners should bring in a feeling of superiority. One should also not do things that will hurt the other person, compromise in a relationship is very important.