Celebrating Valentine's Day
Celebrating Valentine's Day One day, she remarked, 'Birthdays make you feel old, wedding anniversaries are not individualistic, it is only Valentine's Day that symbolises ageless feelings of love.' How true! Col Avnish Sharma (retd) writeschandigarh Updated: Feb 14, 2014 12:52 IST
Celebrating Valentine's Day One day, she remarked, 'Birthdays make you feel old, wedding anniversaries are not individualistic, it is only Valentine's Day that symbolises ageless feelings of love.' How true!
Failing to follow in the footsteps of my father who got married at a ripe age of 33, I got hitched by a starry-eyed Shimlaite at a rather early age. On our very first meeting during courtship, she sounded like a schoolteacher, laying the terms of our relationship. She seemed conversant with the chivalrous ways of her prospective life partner. "I am a down-to-earth person not very fond of unnecessary cootchy coos."
Though the twin words had no dictionary meaning, they conveyed a lot. It suited me since things were simple then. There was nothing called Valentine's Day or such-like dedicated occasion to indulge in the slang she used. Thus the pampering was confined to birthdays and marriage anniversaries. The family, in due course, had the addition of a son and a daughter.
Life moved on with customary birthday and wedding anniversary celebrations without going overboard, the opening sermon of 'no cootchy coos' firmly etched on my mind.
More than a decade into the marital bliss, Valentine's Day started engulfing the social and romantic environment. Unfazed, we shunned it as a big sham, a waste of time. We forgot the presence of two growing-up kids fast approaching their teens and of course mesmerised by the Valentine's Day wave. Their queries on the concept forced us to acknowledge the event; thus the day entered our lives. This was well beyond the popular reasons to celebrate, like teenage love affairs or potential love affairs, courting couples, secret infatuations and such like. But surely, it dented the cootchy coos syndrome. The youth of our regiment organised a Valentine theme party and hosted a compatibility quiz game. My better half was pleasantly surprised winning hands down and we were crowned the Valentine couple of the day. The event turned things around for her. Valentine's Day overshadowed the birthday and wedding anniversaries as special occasions. Expressive love was born. Abhorrence towards cootchy coos became a thing of the past.
Ethos of love symbolising the spirit of the day has since weighed supreme. One day she remarked, "Birthdays make you feel old, wedding anniversaries are not individualistic, it is only Valentine's Day that symbolises ageless feelings of love." How true!
Plans for today's celebrations are afoot. She will be gifted an extra hour of morning sleep and unlimited sweets to satiate her sweet tooth, and I in return would be granted a largesse of indulging in an unscheduled golf round over and above my weekly quota. Happy Valentine's Day, friends!