Happy Mother's Day: It's a mom's world
A woman plays many roles in her life: a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother and so on. After her marriage, a woman dons the role of a wife and motherhood follows, but what happens when this mother ceases to be a wife and in other cases, carries the financial responsibilities of the house? Yes, this Mother’s Day we speak to mothers who are breaking stereotypes and are the breadwinners of their families.chandigarh Updated: May 10, 2015 15:58 IST
A woman plays many roles in her life: a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother and so on. After her marriage, a woman dons the role of a wife and motherhood follows, but what happens when this mother ceases to be a wife and in other cases, carries the financial responsibilities of the house? Yes, this Mother’s Day we speak to mothers who are breaking stereotypes and are the breadwinners of their families.
Mother’s Day is always ballyhooed with a well-deserved flurry of cards, flowers, visits and calls. Ours moms smile through it all, while maybe wishing she could get back to her regular routine, duck off the stage, finish the laundry, cook meals, get to bed early and give the sore back a rest – tomorrow it’s back to the same old grind.
Surely, she appreciates the salute and the loving attention. It’s just that there’s work to be done – literally.
In families headed by women in a patriarchal society, HT City brings you stories of three women from the tricity who fought against all odds and didn’t let their personal circumstances come in the way of their children’s upbringing.
OF SINCERITY AND PATIENCE
Originally from Uttar Pradesh, Veenu Suri, 42, moved to Chandigarh in search of a job. Divorced after eight years of her marriage, it wasn’t easy to shift base, but her concern for her two children made her take this big step. “My elder son was eight years then while my younger son was six and I couldn’t let their studies get compromised due to my separation.
Although I was shattered initially, I wanted to give them the best of everything so that they didn’t grow up to feel they were any less than any of their friends,” said Suri with wept eyes. Suri started off with fashion designing when she first came to Chandigarh in 2003 and eventually went to work full-time at Apeksha’s salon in Sector 34. “Besides, it was important to keep myself busy so that I remained distracted and that is what I learnt when I started working at the parlour,” said Suri, adding that she is happy with her decision today as she sees her kids doing well for themselves.
Both her sons are students of BTech. While her elder son, Karan (22) has completed his studies and landed himself with a job in Chandigarh itself, her younger child, Aman (20), is in his third year in an institute in Dehradun. Aware of her sacrifices to ensure they get a good education, Karan said, “What I am today is all because of her. She is a strong person and has worked tirelessly to give us a comfortable life. I don’t miss a father in my life, thanks to her. She is a wholesome parent to both my brother and myself.”
A MOTHER’S LOVE NEEDS ‘NO WORDS’
Preeti Kapoor. Photo: Keshav Singh/HT
Preeti Kapoor, All of 33, Preeti Kapoor, from Baltana in Zirakpur, is deaf-mute and so is her husband. Preeti’s story is a perfect example of how a mother’s love knows no bounds and needs, no words to emulate her love for her children. While her husband ‘so to say’ works at a factory in Zirakpur, it is Preeti who is the ‘man of the house’. Not deterred by her setback, she commutes over 20 kms daily to work at a parlour in Chandigarh for over eight hours, only so that her five-year-old daughter can get a good night’s sleep.
Her daughter, Aditi, studies in a local government school in their residential colony. Using sign language, Preeti tells us, “I try and do as much as I can.
I don’t want my daughter to suffer in anyway due to my husband and my disabilities. I want her to grow up and make us proud, then all my efforts will seem nothing in front of her success.” Her colleagues at the parlour share how Preeti is among the most dedicated of all and doesn’t like to miss a single day at work.
The parlour’s owner Apeksha Gill complimented Suri’s sincerity and relentless hard work. “Not many women can do what she has done. Her kids very well ought to be proud of their mother. Her professionalism and love for her children combined are a great example for any parent to learn from.”A TRUE FIGHTER
Meenu Ahluwalia. Photo: Gurminder Singh/HT
Asingle mother since the age of 27, Meenu Ahluwalia, a resident of Mohali, took it upon herself to play the role of a mother as well as a father to her then six month old daughter. Between her child and her circumstances, there was no time for self pity. Ahluwalia decided not to marry again and, instead, focus all her energies on giving the best to her only child. “My daughter has been both a friend as well as my biggest weakness,” said Ahluwalia.
Aluwalia who always wished to get into teaching, worked as a teacher in Vivek High School, Sector 38 for 13 years, after which she went on to head the senior wing branch of the school’s Mohali outlet for eight years. “I resigned only this year in January but my association with this institution will never end.” She continues to take tuitions for long hours daily.
Her daughter, Saniya, 24, shared, “My mother left no stone unturned in providing me with the best of everything, be it a dress that I wanted or even a matching clip to go with it. More than materialistic things, mom has given me the best gift - her complete devotion towards me and my life. She is my best friend.”