Matrimonial site for wards of soldiers

  • Mandeep Singh Bajwa
  • Updated: Apr 19, 2015 16:38 IST

There was a time when military officers themselves and in particular their daughters were much sought after for purposes of matrimony. There’s a new social trend too visible these days. It manifested itself on social media where wards of military personnel preferred to hang out in groups with other ‘Fauji Kids’. Apart from nostalgia for Services life what bound them together was a common background leading to shared values, interests and perception. This commonality of values has brought about a unique social phenomenon. Defence personnel’s children do not necessarily want to pursue a military career but would like to marry within the fraternity. Apart from common standards of behaviour, social graces and lifestyles, there is a comfort zone in such relationships leading to more compatibility.

This came home to Parveen, elegant wife of Brigadier ABS (Bobby) Brar of the EME when she started hunting for matches for her three charming daughters. The Brars faced the same difficulties as other military families – distance from their native area, being out of touch with the prevailing social milieu, etc. This led Parveen to come up with the idea of a website to facilitate anxious military parents in their responsibility. Soon, an exclusive portal for defence officers’ children, was up and running. The site brings together couples who are self-assured and exude the kind of positivity that only Services life can generate. Of course civilians looking for matches from Fauji families can also register. There are no words which can thank Parveen Brar enough for providing this pioneering service to the Fauji fraternity.

The first strike formation of the army celebrated fifty years of existence this month. I Corps was raised at Varanasi on April 1, 1965, by General PO Dunn to fulfil a need felt for a formation to bridge the gap between XV and XI Corps in Jammu and northern Punjab. In both the 1965 and 1971 wars (commanded in the latter by General KK Singh, MVC) the corps, named India’s first strike formation in 1966 safeguarded the vital Jammu-Pathankot corridor by capturing enemy territory. Tremendous attrition was caused to enemy armour in both wars in the battles around Chawinda and across the Basantar bridgehead respectively. Now the corps trains for an offensive role in the semi-desert area of Cholistan in Pakistan and northwest Rajasthan in India. With troops scattered over UP, MP and Haryana, I Corps is a potent offensive formation with the most modern equipment.

The factual position on the much-delayed implementation of the one-rank one-pension (OROP), disinformation notwithstanding, is that the matter is still stuck in the finance ministry. On the 13th the file was sent back by them to the MOD for clarifications in the light of the Supreme Court’s ruling in the case filed by General SPS Vains. Clarifications received the fate of veterans is again with the babus of finance. I would advise ESM not to take heed of multiple emails and text messages being forwarded over the internet and through social media. The most authentic information is available through the good offices of the IESM and its office-bearers. I may add here that its chairman General Satbir Singh is determined to keep up the pressure on the govt to implement the demand, undiluted and unaltered.

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