No fault in our stars

  • Anchal Mahajan, Hindustan Times, Chandigarh
  • Updated: Nov 26, 2014 09:48 IST

Surfing the net the other day, I casually typed the word L-O-V-E onto a search engine. The first link that appeared was a 'love calculator'!

I was baffled. So here was 'Doctor Love', who calculated the love quotient of two persons based on their names. So, clearly out of curiosity I inserted two names. The result was an astonishing 10%. This was the person I had loved the most and from whom I had received care, love and warmth.

My first reaction was that some crazy, brainless chaps sitting idle must have come up with this absurd idea to "calculate" love. The next moment I understood why I was cursing something that had no value in my life. No matter what that calculator displayed, I knew our feelings for each other were genuine. I pondered for a moment. What about those numerous astrologers, numerologists, tarot card readers, palmists people flock to before uniting two persons in matrimony?

Their job is similar to 'Doctor Love'. India is a hub of cosmic believers and has been so for centuries.

A study has revealed that about 1 crore weddings take place in India every year, out of which 50% are finalised after consulting an astrologer. Thus, around 50 lakh weddings are decided thanks to birth charts and planetary positions of two persons, who are then pronounced favourable for each other.

Broken marriages, the dying spark in a marriage, the high rate of marital discord, are all signs that friendship and true love are missing between the couple. Love has no pre-written rules and it can certainly not be dictated, explained or interpreted. Love is an experience more like an instinct or an intuition, and it is definitely not related to names of two persons or their planetary positions at birth. Marry someone because the seed of sempiternal love is embedded in you, not because your planets think you will make a happy couple.

Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. The choice is you either put your trust in predictions or make a plan and try to fulfil it. Problems in a relationship can either push you together or pull you apart.

So, it is your choice to either visit an astrologer who will justify your good or rotten luck or you can make a decision based on love, which may not solve your problem in a jiffy, but will certainly make you patient enough to see it through.

In his latest book 'Adultery', Paulo Coelho has said, "To find peace in the heavens, we must find love on Earth. Without it, we are worthless."

So the next time you read an advertisement about astrological remedies to fix your love life or marriage, stop and think for a moment. The potential for a happy marriage is within you.

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