Givers always on top
Is there anyone among us who does not go after success? Perhaps none; but our definition of success may vary. What is success for you could be undesirable for me. PP Wangchuk report.columns Updated: Aug 13, 2013 01:26 IST
Is there anyone among us who does not go after success? Perhaps none; but our definition of success may vary. What is success for you could be undesirable for me.
There could be a situation when your success may spell doom for another; that is when your gain in a business deal, for instance, could be leading to another's bankruptcy.
Conventional wisdom says successful people are highly motivated, have the ability and the sense to grab an opportunity to "dig into a goldmine". Apart from hard work and talent, you need to have that extra sense to "fish out" the "luck factor" to become what is called "you are lucky".
But no positive factor can help you until you are singe-minded for success. As Swami Vivekananda said, "Take up one idea as your life — think of it, dream of it and live on that idea." And success is yours, for sure.
One should keep in mind one more essential factor for success: How one approaches others, particularly with the ones one is dealing with. In this case, there are two kinds of people: Those who would "like to give" and those who would "like to take" at the work place.
The 'takers' are known to be having an attitude to squeeze others as much as possible and give back the least; while the 'givers' give their full irrespective of any returns. The latter are a rare breed but they are the ones who are ultimately at the top of the ladder.
There is a book, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, by Adam Grant, that says givers have a rare ability to focus on success that yields more for others. And they dominate the top of the success ladder.
The point is that success comes to those who are magnanimous at heart; and have the will to achieve. As Bill Gates says, "Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose."