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The listening advantage

columns Updated: Sep 01, 2013 23:26 IST
LR Sabharwal

A problem with many of us is that we don’t respect and listen to others. Good manners demand that we learn to respect others’ point of view. Suppose someone has a point of view, we should respect that even if we don’t agree.

We don’t have to accept and agree on everything that others say. Listen and follow your ‘atma’. Listening makes one wiser; and it is a form of respect for others that one should cultivate.

We should learn to respect others’ point of view by listening to them attentively instead of condemning them outright. If we have something to say, choose a better tone and a different time.

When someone says something and you don’t like it, don’t run him down as that will be only becoming disrespectful of others. You should keep yourself curiously quiet; and in case you really have a point of view, choose an appropriate time.

In other words, first we must learn to listen, respect others’ point of view and finally, respect their requirements. We can respect somebody’s requirements.

Even if we cannot fulfill it on account of being limited by way of body, mind and resources, but respect we can certainly give.

Suppose someone says something, we can say, “I will try my best but I don’t know, if God wills, it will happen.” Or, we can say, “Whatever you are saying is good, we will try.”

What a nice thing to reply to someone in polite and sweet language.

At times, we don’t respect even our loved ones. The moment any one of them comes in front of us, we put him/her down, especially in front of others. That hurts him/her badly. Correct behaviour and correct timing is very important. One should realise that God is omnipresent and He dwells in each one of us.