Way of householders
It is presumed that the pursuit for self-realisation is meant for monks who have sacrificed everything for the same. But the truth is that the highest level of self-realisation can be attained by householders. MN Kundu writes.columns Updated: Feb 01, 2013 00:46 IST
It is presumed that the pursuit for self-realisation is meant for monks who have sacrificed everything for the same. But the truth is that the highest level of self-realisation can be attained by householders as well and there is no need to adopt asceticism for the same.
Our spiritual journey starts from where we are. Constant trials and tribulations of family life provide ample opportunities for self-purification, self-expansion, sacrifice, development of loving kindness and above all total surrender to the Almighty with inner renunciation. Most of our ancient sages were householders who lived a life of spiritual aspiration, leading to ultimate realisation through inner renunciation.
Structured curriculum of family life with binding duties and responsibilities enables us to observe the inevitable flux of phenomena and our role- play in the same.
The institution of marriage based on instinctive physical attraction, socioethical necessity and above all love is a unique learning process for purification. God is love, the cosmic integrating principle which dissolves all pluralities into massive oneness casting aside the differences of divisive selves. Married life sets the learning process of this in motion with requisite lessons on self-expansion through understanding, empathy and love.
Bringing up of children is highly educating in that it develops the spirit of loving sacrifice together with utter disregard for self-interests. We try to do all we can for the wellbeing and betterment of posterity as a matter of duty.
When children grow up and enter their own life, they get automatically distanced from us. This provides us the occasion to realise that nothing and nobody really belong to us except God, our sole refuge.
But spiritual learning takes place only when we are meditative and keen to take lessons from life as a part of ‘sadhana’. We have the choice either to be deluded by the externals of family life and suffer or to probe deeper within with non-attachment for ultimate realisation beyond the apparent reality.