Whenever you are angry, before uttering a word, say to yourself, “I’ll get angry tomorrow.” So said Atmamaya Raja, and added, “Postponing undesired things reduce their intensity and give you time to reflect on the situation.” To which Swami Atmananda added, “Humans have the freedom to break free of any conditioning and conversely create an entirely new one. So potent is our capacity of self-consciousness.”
You’ll find negative and frustrated people all over. They make innocent people the target of their anger, and become self-centred, irresponsible and nagging.
Habitual complainers may turn out to be workaholics and achievers as they feel forced to prove to themselves that they are ‘superior’; what others think of them is of no import. What will you like to be to others: pleasant, open and receptive to new ideas, one to whom others flock; or ‘self-righteous’, angry, and absolutely non-attractive?
The significant issue is how to rise above the other person’s bitterness and make sure that you do not get influenced because otherwise, you would begin to resemble that very person; you will feel angry and frustrated. You can’t reform the other person, you can only change yourself. Keeping peace is the remedy.
There is love — a powerful emotion that can make you transcend anger in your interaction with the bitter person. This may seem difficult at first, but a start has to be made by refusing to be in the negative wavelength of the other person.
Anger is just a thought wave which we identify and respond to. So if this weakening thought wave can be controlled and changed, the response also will be calm instead of an angry stance. Bhanumathi Narasimhan’s words come to mind, “It is important that we connect to the inner-net and not just the internet. Go out and explore nature and don’t lose the human touch.”