‘I could do nothing’: Boy who saw dad kill mom remembers every detail, in trauma
The Delhi Police said the two children who witnessed the murder of their mother are being counselled and have been kept with their grandparents for now.delhi Updated: Aug 08, 2017 11:24 IST
A 10-year-old boy, who watched his father murder his mother in south Delhi’s Badarpur, is undergoing counselling as the police say he and his four-year-old brother are in trauma. According to the police the boy remembers every detail of the murder that took place on August 5. “I could do nothing from inside,” the boy told the media two days after the incident.
The murder of a 30-year-old woman by her husband has left their two children scarred. The 10-year-old watched as the woman cried to him for help even as his four-year-old sibling was asleep in the next room.
“My father cut my mother’s throat using a knife. She fell on the floor and wriggled while holding her neck. She could not speak anything after that,” the boy said.
The couple, married for 12 years, was struggling financially as well. Parveen Taneja couldn’t keep a job and they often fought over it, neighbours said. Fed up with the abuse, Minakshi moved out of their home in Badarpur’s Molarband village with her children and was living with her parents in the same neighbourhood.
Her husband would however visit her frequently and quarrels were a routine matter and were often witnessed by the children. Unlike any of these quarrels, this time the woman had called out to her son for help.
“She must have sensed that Parveen was determined to kill her, so she called out her son’s name and begged him to save her,” said the grandmother. The two children are now with the grandparents who have expressed willingness to bring up the children. Minakshi’s brother too has offered to look after the boys.
A senior police officer said the murder case against Parveen was registered on the older boy’s statement and he is the prime witness in the case. “But we already have enough evidence against the accused to build a watertight case against him,” said a senior police officer.
Police said the two boys are being counselled. “Both boys are traumatised. One of them witnessed the murder while the other saw his mother being cut and crushed,” said an investigator.
For now, the children have been kept under the care of their grandparents. “The boys’ mother anyways wanted to leave them in her parents’ custody. She did not want them to witness her husband regularly beat her after coming home drunk,” the officer said.
Experts in child psychology said the two children will recover from the trauma once they get proper attention. “In such cases trauma remains, however, normal coping is also very high,” said Dr Nimesh Desai, director, Institute of Human Behaviour and Allied Sciences.
“Three things play a crucial role for healing in such circumstances: naturally good coping mechanism of a person, good emotional support in terms of family and friends and as a last resort professional counselling by a psychologist.” According to experts only a very small percentage of such victims suffer from personality disorder later on in life. “The power of healing both physical and mental is amazing,” said Desai.