What makes moms in the city supercool? Next-door mothers and their young ones talk about bridging the generation gap and making a great team together at work and home.
He wants to be a hero, like mom
For Devashish, a 10-year-old student at Sri Ram School Gurgaon, his mother Shivani Arora Chhabra is his hero. From playing cricket with him to taking him for live matches, or to the Delhi Drum Circle every weekend, along with helping him with his homework, she does it all, along with being a top scorer at office. The young lad seems mighty proud of his mom as he shares, “Recently she got 100% in an online exam. I wish I can be as smart as her when I grow up. She is my role model.” Devashish has been equally inspiring for Shivani. “When I resigned from my job three months ago and decided to be a full time mom, it was Devashish who insisted that I should not lose my identity as an individual. ‘Mom, I get bored at home in half-an-hour. What will you do for 8-9 hours when I am away at school every day,’ he said. He insisted that I take up a part-time project from home, and we’re a team now!”
Jazzin’ it up for ma
For Jazz singer Bhavna Reddy (top), daughter of Kuchipudi dancer Kaushalya Reddy (above), her best Mother’s Day memory is when she and her sister (Bakki) cooked/baked an elaborate four course meal with a proper menu. “We decorated and turned our home into a restaurant for both the moms to dine in. However, the moms didn’t like the food, and dad and we both ended up having it.” Kaushalya on her part believes that in today’s age, it’s very important for mothers and daughters to talk, for a healthy and mature relationship. “We talk !!!! We are constantly in touch with each other. I think it is important to give the young ones space, because so much is going on in their life which even we don’t understand. By giving them space we give them a chance to sort things out on their own, which gives them a chance to grow and brings us on a common platform. Also, as mothers we have to be very open to their ideas and supportive, so that we can have fun with each other.” On a regular weekend, they both cuddle up in the bed and watch horror movies.
Single mom, Double love
Bringing up a child on your own is no small task. For freelance writer Sehba Imam, 44, it’s been a challenging but a beautiful one. “I decided to work from home instead of going to a studio every day, so I could spend more time with my daughter and I don’t regret it,” she says. Imam’s relationship with her daughter Seher, 18, involves no emotional pressure. “Our relationship is based on mutual respect. Not fear or authority. The best thing about her is that she treats me like an adult. She does not interfere in my personal life. I discuss everything including boyfriends with her. But she gives me her opinion only if I ask for it,” says the daughter. The duo has similar tastes in literature and love to bond over books and movies. “She often tells me what to read and watch as she is more in touch with the latest culture,” Sehba says.
Awkward? never heard of that!
Seema (42) and Aarushi (13) Tebak, residents of Janakpuri, share a mom-daughter relationship that’s more like best friends. Aarushi says that as opposed to the awkwardness most teenagers share with their parents at this age, she is totally carefree and comfortable with her mum and ends up spending most time with her. “She’s my friend, my teacher, and my personal God. I want to grow old and be like her,” says the teen. “My daughter is a gift of love from God. In my daughter I see my childhood,” says Seema, explaining what helps her understand Aarushi better.
They bake love together
A 37-year-old baker and a 16-year-old marketing manager, that’s what this mother-son duo is all about. For Manjrin Kohli, baking has always been her first love and she got a boost to start it commercially, when her son and family supported here. She started off about three years ago and today has a full-fledged baking business, Mama’s Muffins, and gets three to four orders a week. “I only know how to bake and my son has played a crucial role in making my passion a reality. I had never heard of water-marking a photo!” she says as she hugs her son Jappan Singh, a class eleventh student. Ask him what he wants do in future, and he says, “I want to get into business. May be start a bakery of our own,” he says. They have a Facebook page too, which is completely managed by Jappan. “He clicks the photos, watermarks them, uploads them, takes order on the page. He is my little marketing manager,” she says.
Special son, Special purpose
Geeta Mondol, 48, can’t stop raving about the joy that her eighteen-year-old son Samarpan has brought to her life. “He has taught me never to take anything for granted.” When Samarpan was diagnosed with Moderate Autism at the age of 8, there were hardly any schools ready to take the challenge of accepting him. “I tried to help a school admit autistic children like him, but finally realised that children with special needs probably need a separate setup that is more sensitive and conducive to their growth,” says Mondol. Thus began Mondol’s journey to get trained as a special-needs trainer, and she set up a centre, Ashish Foundation, to help children with autism and other intellectual challenges become financially independent and socially acceptable. “I have learnt to be compassionate and non-judgmental thanks to him,” she says.
The Rocker’s Rock
Abhishek Bhatia, 26, vocalist for Delhi-based rock band Circus, says it was his mom, Jasbir, who gave him the gift of music that has turned into his life now. “Ever since I was little, she exposed me to good music. She bought me my first set of headphones, music cassettes and CDs, and everything. Even in college, when I used to get warning letters for missing classes because at that time Circus had just started and was picking up, she never objected, and insisted I follow what I always wanted.” Jasbir, 50, says she is just another mother who is happy for her son and also worried about his future. “When the first letter of low attendance came, I was scared. But then we both talked it out maturely, he assured me everything will be okay, I believed in his dreams and touchwood, it’s all well!”
Mom groups around town
If you’re a mum and want to connect with others, look up these mommy clubs:
GMoms Food Club
SAATH-Parents support Group of Children with Special Needs
Mother of all art
An online art exhibition- By Mothers and For Mothers, Touchtalent.com, will display artworks made by moms, exhibiting different emotions of a mother through paintings. The works can be viewed online till tomorrow.
(Text by Chetna Dua, Vaishali Bhambri, Aakriti Sawhney and Samarth Goyal)