Avoid nagging and criticising your child.
This piece of advice comes from experts who know that with the board examinations round the corner, parents tend to worry too much, often pressurising their children to excel in their exams.
The helpline run by the Central Board of Secondary Education (CBSE) has been flooded with phone calls from not only anxious students but their parents as well, seeking ways to deal with stress.
Dr Geetanjali Kumar, a counsellor with Hansraj Model School, Punjabi Bagh, and also a panellist with the CBSE helpline, says, “Parents should have realistic expectations from their child. They should encourage them to boost their confidence and not resort to nagging and criticising them.”
Dr Kumar also advises parents to keep the atmosphere at home pleasant and relaxed.
“They (parents) should spend at least 15-20 minutes with their child, involving them in pleasant and humourous conversations to make them feel relaxed.”
Psychologists also warn of the harmful effects of unrealistic expectations that parents often have from their children.
“Exams are just a phase in a student’s life and it should not be taken as a matter of life and death,” said Dr Bhavna Barmi, Senior Clinical Psychologist, Escorts Heart Institute and Research Centre and educational counsellor.
“Parents should not project their unfulfilled desires on children. This thing happens
when the parents are non successful or either very successful. Different students have different potentials. Set expectations according to your child’s potential.”
Speaking about memory-enhancing medications that students often resort to, Dr Barmi said, “Students should not follow any kind of medication. Meditation is the best medication during the exam time.”
“If they are able to meditate for 5 minutes, it will enhance their attention, concentration, confidence and finally performance.”
Jyoti Bose, principal of Springdales School, Dhaula Kuan, said encouragement from the parents is key to a child's performance.
“We just expect the parents to see that their child is taking enough sleep, healthy food and are doing their best.”