Goal-setting seems like a simple exercise to most people. One decides what one wants, creates a plan to achieve it and then goes ahead with working for it.
On the face of it, it is actually as simple as that. The disappointment sets in when we take these steps but get nowhere near our goal! Where do we go wrong in achieving our goals? You are not the only one asking this question. This is one question being asked by most of us.
In practice, there is more to setting a goal than merely making a plan. The uncertainty looms large and events don’t always happen according to our plans. If we are not really committed to our goals, obstacles, fears, erroneous beliefs, lack of conviction, lack of confidence, procrastination, laziness etc sidetrack us. These are self-sabotage tendencies that we all possess to a lesser or greater degree. Let’s see how we can get out of this trap.
The first step in achieving a worthwhile goal is being clear about the goal itself. Do you already have a clear goal in your mind? Take some time now and think about what you really want. Start with just one thing at a time. As you become comfortable with this strategy you can create more goals later on. The most important thing is that your goal should be completely ‘clear’ in your mind. The clarity of thought is a vital ingredient in achieving your dreams. So, whatever it is that you want, just picture it very, very clearly.
Your goal must also be realistic and achievable. For example, if you can barely clear your class tests but your goal is to clear the IIT entrance exam, this goal is destined to fail even before it is made. Your goal must be challenging but it should be doable by you. You must also be able to measure your progress on this goal. You will need to break down your goal into small steps, which you can monitor and thus assess your regular progress. Along with that, you must also set a general time frame for achieving your goal.
Once you know what you want, it also helps to know why you want it. You must have solid reasons to want what you want; otherwise your motivation levels may falter. Ask yourself, “What benefits will this goal bring into my life? What will I gain if I achieve this goal? What will I lose if I don’t achieve this goal?” Write down the answers to these questions.
Once you are clear on all these counts, write down your goal in great detail. Include the general timeframe in which you plan to achieve this goal and also the reasons for wanting to achieve this goal. Keep this paper safely. Read it aloud to yourself first thing in the morning and the last thing at night. Let it sink into your subconscious, which will then work out the hows of your goal by creating synchronicities and bringing just the right resources in your life at just the right time.
So, go ahead, set your goals and achieve them, but remember that many things along the path may not always be in your control, so plan a couple of alternatives as well.
The author is a life-skills coach, time-line therapist, and new consciousness writer. Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org