There often comes a time when you’ve put in your best effort, but instead of getting praised for it, you’ve been bombarded with criticism. It can be difficult to bounce back – but finding the strength to do so can take you to great heights and success.
1 Know your limits: As hard as you may try, it’s not humanly possible for you to be good at everything you do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Accept your limitations and don’t be overly critical of yourself.
2 Be willing to accept mistakes: We all goof up at some point of time or another. But the problem lies in repeating a mistake. Owning up to what you did is the first step to ensure that you don’t make the same error twice. Don’t try to hide the fact that you goofed up . Be honest to yourself and others about what you’ve done. Be accountable and responsible for your actions.
3 Be open to feedback: It’s often difficult for us to let our work be judged and evaluated. But it is the feedback we receive that grounds us in reality and gives us a clearer picture of where we stand. Be open to both positive and negative appraisals. Remember that the feedback you get is not about you as a person but rather on your work. Don’t brood over it and get de-motivated.
4 Use criticism constructively: Negative criticism can often be the greatest motivator for a person to do better. Use the reactions you get to improve.
5 Be positive: In focusing on the negative aspects of life, don’t forget about the positives. Appreciate yourself for the good work you’ve accomplished and learn to give yourself a pat on the back every now and then.
6 No complacency: Irrespective of whatever heights you might reach, it’s important to constantly keep working on yourself.
Never get complacent. Whether you get good reviews or bad, always strive to do better.
7 Each person is unique: Your strengths as well as your weaknesses make you who you are. It’s how you cope with your shortcomings that defines who you are and what you one day become. Be clear about this and always put in your 100%.
The author is director, Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Fortis Healthcare