Dealing with rejection
College admissions are just a small step in the big scheme of your career. Hold things in perspective reports Dr Samir Parikheducation Updated: Jun 16, 2010 09:25 IST
The way that you need to look at college admissions is that there are no rejections. If you didn’t get admission in the college of your choice, it’s not that you, as a person, have been rejected. The fact is that hundreds of students apply and there are only so many seats in each institute. Thus, it’s natural that everyone won’t get admission. This is not a rejection of an individual but merely the way the system works. Moreover, if you don't get admission in a particular college it isn’t the end of the world. College is just an initial step to a career. A lot more than just the college you are from goes into making a successful career.
Look around you. There are hundreds of experts in hundreds of fields. All these successful people went to different institutes, and not all went to the “best institutes”– as these are perceived by people. Any field you look into, you would realise that success is defined by the individual’s ability and effort, and that’s about it. Once you have your ability and effort in sync success will be yours. It just takes time.
What should you do if you don’t get admission in the institute you want? Having a ‘Plan B’ is probably one of the most important things because Plan A does not always work. You should stay focused on the bigger picture – what you wish to do in terms of academic subjects and the career you have set your sights on. Talk to a few seniors and experts, and explore other institutes, even if they are in another city. Then, go all out and give it your best shot. Be consistent in your effort and trust your abilities. Once you are on the right track, success will be yours.
Your goals, your life and your career are all about you. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. Stay focused on your dreams and the path that you think will get you there. Choose to ignore what others are doing.
Equally, ignore what people say and look unwaveringly at what you wish to achieve. People will always have their opinions; they should mean little to you.
Do not get perturbed by the highs and lows of life. It’s best to accept that sometimes what we want might not happen. Instead of losing heart, we should just move on and take the next step. As soon as you start moving forward, past losses lose their meaning. Learn from your experience so that the next time, things work out easier for you.
Life is always in transition and each one of us faces our share of problems and challenges. However, it pays to never stop enjoying life. It’s all a matter of attitude.
The author is the chief of department of mental health and behavioural sciences at Max Healthcare