Being responsible and ensuring that one makes the right decisions are essential traits to ensuring that life goes on smoothly. This responsibility is not just to the self but towards all around us. Here are some dos and don’ts you should keep in mind.
1 Rights and responsibility go hand in hand: With each right we have, there is also an accompanying responsibility. No freedom comes alone. It is essential to recognise this and start acting in accordance with one’s responsibility as well.
2 Be honest and open: It is essential to have a good understanding of yourself, your needs, and others around you. At the same time, it is necessary to be honest and open about these aspects.
3 Plan for the long term: Responsibility has a significant connection with what happens in the long run in our lives. Having a plan of action for the long term is important so that one is able to fulfil the responsibilities that one has or that will come with the passage of time.
4 Visualise all consequences: You should be able to visualise the consequences that could follow from your actions. This is what gives us the benefit of better planning and one that is able to ensure that one is able to take care of one’s responsibilities in the best possible way.
5 Take advice from elders: The adults around us are the ones who have a good idea of what needs to be done, the roles and responsibilities that one may have to fulfil at different stages of life and how one can go about doing so. It is helpful to seek their advice and guidance.
6 Do not be swayed by peers: Every individual has his or her unique way of looking at things and situations in life. Having an independent view is important and not getting swayed by what our peers think or do is essential so that one is able to respond best to one’s responsibilities.
7 Take initiative: Being laidback will never produce solutions. Be proactive. Take active measures to build on your work and future.
8 No shirking: Running away from tasks only puts more pressure on an individual. It makes one feel more stressed. Instead, work towards doing your work and accomplishing it on time.
9 Don’t cheat yourself: Making excuses may take care of the others around you but in the long term it only affects you, your perceptions of what you do and how you do it and what it says about you. Stop cheating yourself and take control.
10 Be yourself: You have to be yourself. You can’t be like the neighbour next door or your best friend. You are an individual in your own right. You have your own strengths and positive traits which you should try to develop further. Do not ape someone else.
The author is a psychiatrist, and chief, Department of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Max Healthcare