Hiding behind problems?
If you find the going tough, get helpeducation Updated: May 08, 2012 13:44 IST
There are times in our lives when we find it difficult to cope with the pressures and challenges of life. Temporary lapses are normal, but if you’re facing difficulties at school, it’s best to address them, and overcome them as early as possible. Here are some tips
1 Accept your mistakes: It’s perfectly natural for us all to lag in our studies once in a while. Rather than make excuses for yourself, accept that you’ve made a mistake. Only when you realise your mistake can you correct it and learn from it.
2 Do not cover up: It is never a good idea to lie to your parents or teachers. Don’t cook up elaborate stories. Don’t try to hide the fact that you haven’t been doing your work.
3 Talk to your teacher: Your teacher is concerned about your well-being, both academic and otherwise. If you’re experiencing any difficulty with studies or at school in general that are interfering with your ability to cope with the work pressure, talk to your teacher about it.
4 Ask for guidance: We are often in situations that we are unable to cope with on our own. At times like this, remember that you are not alone. Ask elders for their guidance and support.
5 Start putting more effort: There’s no point running away from the problem. In the long run, it will be better to face it head on. If you realise that you aren’t being able to complete your work on time, or that your teachers are constantly complaining against you, you need to start putting in more effort.
6 Share with your parents: Don’t be scared of how your parents will judge you if you face problems while studying. There can be many reasons for not being able to complete your work on time. Share your concerns with them openly and honestly.
7 Get organised: Academics troubles don’t always stem from not being able to give enough time. Rather, it’s usually about the method of study. Use effective study skills, create a schedule, set short, achievable targets and become more organised with your studies.
8 Do not let work to pile up: We all have a tendency of procrastinating, overestimating our capacity to work at any given time in the future. But remember, procrastination never helps. Make sure you complete your work on time. Don’t let any backlog build up because once it does, the problem just always escalates and coming out of it seems nearly impossible.
9 Never miss classes: What you learn in a classroom, you will never learn outside it. A topic that might take you half an hour to understand in class will most likely take you two-three hours to do it on your own. Make attending classes a priority.
10 Talk to a counsellor: Not being ‘smart enough’ or not working hard enough aren’t the only reasons for facing difficulties in the classroom. Often, emotional turmoil, stress, or problems in organisation, too, can make it hard for you to handle the pressure. If you find the going tough, get help – it is available.
The author is director, Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Fortis Healthcare