Often our focus tends to be directed only towards the important and more significant people in our lives. We frequently forget other people who may not be so significant in our lives but who nonetheless contribute to making them easier. Respecting these people is important and an integral aspect of following and reflecting our values and beliefs.
1 Accept that each person plays an important role: Every individual has his or her own relevance to our lives. They all play their own roles, each of which is important and integral to ensuring that our lives go on smoothly without any difficulties. Recognising this and accepting it is important if we are to respect them.
2 Each individual is unique: Every person is good for a reason and has his or her own unique value and relevance. No person can be considered better or worse on the basis of the job he or she does. What makes individuals is their values, beliefs and behaviours.
3 Don’t hurt anyone: We all expect that everybody should be good with us and should not hurt our feelings. But what we need to remember is that this is a reciprocal process. What we expect from others is something that we need to follow and do, too.
4 Accept others the way they are: Every individual is different. They would certainly possess qualities that are appreciable. Even though there could be things in them which you do not like, that does not take away the fact that we still need to accept them for who they are.
5 Thank them for the work they do: Thank people for the work that they do for you. They are doing a service to you.
6 Never be disrespectful: If you deserve respect, then so do others around you. Showing respect to others by addressing them in a respectful manner and talking in a good tone reflects your values.
7 Spread the message to peers: Encourage your friends to be respectful of others around. It is important to spread this message so that people continue to respect everybody.
8 Wish them on important days: A way of showing people your appreciation is by acknowledging them and their presence on important days. Simply greeting someone and wishing them can make them feel good about them and validate their being.
9 Educate them: Help enhance people’s skills. Educate and uplift them.
10 Do the same to juniors: Pass on the sense of respect and responsibility also to those who are younger to you. By being respectful of people and encouraging those younger to you, the cycle would continue in a very positive way.
The author is a psychiatrist, and chief, Department of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Max Healthcare