Life coach: Talk to your teen about your fears

  • Dr Jitendra Nagpal, Hindustan Times, New Delhi
  • Updated: Feb 13, 2016 18:17 IST
As a parent, you can identify places where your teenaged daughter or son may need guidance. (Istock)

I have an 18-year-old daughter. Recently, I have been observing sudden shifts in her mood which is affecting her studies. I am really worried as we have family members with a history of mental ailments. These changes in her are making me worried. Please guide.

– Worried

Your situation is understandable. Teen years mean a lot of changes in the child’s life, physically and mentally. These changes may sometimes affect his/ her daily activities. It is advisable that you talk to her about your fears. You may also identify places where she may need guidance and at the same time she might feel shy to discuss issues such as puberty-related changes. As there is a family history of mental illnesses, you should take professional help and talk about your fears.

I am a mother of two adolescents. I want to know about positive parenting. What is it and how can we use it with our teenagers?

– Curious

Parenting is an art which every parent develops and is unique. Every parent has his/her own way of handling the same situation. Positive parenting is all about identifying the flaws and correcting them. It is to understand that the changes have to be made in our child-rearing practices. It is not a method that consists of a set of rules or a style, but it is a belief that children should be treated with respect, free from violence and shame. They should be guided with love and encouragement. Your children should bond with you because they respect you and not because they’re afraid of you. Positive parenting helps develop a healthy-parent-child relationship. This helps build resilience and pave the way for how your child would function as an adult.

The author is a senior psychiatrist and incharge, Institute of Life Skills & Mental Health Promotion, Moolchand Medcity, New Delhi. Send him an email at, marked ‘Dr Nagpal

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