There are no failures
Put your setbacks in perspective to move ahead in lifeeducation Updated: Nov 30, 2011 10:37 IST
When most people look at their lives, they evaluate it in terms of achievements and failures. What we see as our failure becomes a significant source of disturbance and distress. Thus, developing a perspective is extremely crucial.
1 Life is in a continuum: What we often forget is that failure does not spell the end of the world. Where there are setbacks, there will also be successes. We cannot visualise our lives from the perspective of one incident alone.
2 No exam is more important than another: Always remember that things have their own importance and relevance. It is not about comparatives wherein we can view one exam as being more or less important than others. Everything is important in its own right.
3 Faulty perception: Failure is never simply a failure in and of itself. What we may term as unsuccessful can also be looked at alternatively as a learning experience through which one has changed existing ideas and thought processes.
4 See it as a new learning: Look at your failures as a new learning experience. Each time you are unable to do something, you learn about what you need to change and how the same situation can be approached differently to gain the maximum out of it.
5 Evaluate each effort: It is important that in the face of a loss, you try and evaluate yourself. Try and look at what you did and how you did it.
6 Constantly improvise: Bring about continuous changes in your methods of operating. This improvisation would ensure that you do not stumble again due to previous mistakes.
7 Try harder: Never forget that there is scope for you to put in more effort on your part every time. You need to try harder whenever you find some scope for improvement and change.
8 Treat each new exam or test as a new challenge: Don’t think that your experience is purely reflective of experiences. Treat each new test as a new challenge.
9 Build your self-confidence: Boost your confidence in your abilities and skills. Try not to doubt yourself. Remember that everyone feels let down at some point in time or another. It does not mean that you cannot do that activity again.
10 Believe in success: Always believe in yourself and in success. Ultimately, success will surely follow. Sometimes all that is needed to succeed is a little improvisation and belief in yourself.
The author is a psychiatrist, and chief, Department of Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Max Healthcare