How B'wood beauties handle male gaze
Some enjoy male gaze while the others despise it. Read on to know how Bollywood actresses deal with male attention..entertainment Updated: Dec 10, 2008 13:15 IST
I am a very family person, I learnt to deal with male attention from my mom, my maasis, my nani. But finally, a lot was learnt from my own mistakes. A word of caution: To learn from others mistakes is better than making your own. There are ways in which a heroine prepares herself to deal with unwanted male attention. For one, she has an inherent (self-preservation) instinct that comes into play from a very early age. Also, educating a girl child gives her the power to defend herself, to distinguish between right and wrong.
Since I’m a sports person, I am used to guys looking at me since the 9th standard. I would wonder why they were looking at me? Then, a couple of lesbian friends told me ‘Oh you look so hot’ and I was like ‘What’s wrong with them?’
I enjoy the male gaze. All girls enjoy it; they just pretend that they don’t. Trust me, most girls get all dressed up because they want to the attention of the boys! I know you want to look good for yourself; but it’s always fun to see guys giving you attention. The boldest pass made at me was ‘Would you be friends with me?’
I think male attention is the ultimate compliment for a woman. But there has always been a sharm ka purdah from the men’s side as far as I am concerned. They invariably camouflage their feelings under a flattering compliment. No doubt, I have a sexy image but I also have a strongly developed intellectual side which people find impossible to escape, especially when they meet me. I could easily write a book on men — they are like kids.
I think every girl becomes aware of the male gaze from her school or college days. But from the time I have got into modelling, I have come across a lot of men who keep staring at me and even pass comments. Some men think models are easily available. Dealing with it is simple — I just ignore the undesirable gazes and enjoy the desirable ones. If it’s a cute guy, I bask in it; if it’s a bad looking man, I just ignore him (laughs).
Some men look at you in an appreciative way, which is a compliment and others are disgusting in the way they look. I despise such men and feel bad for them because they haven’t been taught to respect a woman. Men don’t walk up to me and say cheesy lines because they know I will give them a tight slap.
—Bollywood News Service