You’re at a party, all decked up, with your closest friends waiting to hit the floor and a guy creeps up beside you. ‘Hey, we have met.’ ‘Oh yeah, at so-and-so’s party!’ The small talk rambles on.
You know right then that he’s not the sleaze-ball sort, rather he will stand ground to make conversation, when you don’t really have much to tell him.
Celebs who go to parties every day have it even worse. Image consultant Chhaya Momaya says the best thing to do is to politely refrain. “I’m warm with such people, but each one has his or her way of approaching you. You just need to be firm,” she suggests. She recalls tricking herself out of situations: “Make an excuse, give them your email id, if they ask for your number, say you’ll be back and disappear when they want to click pictures with you.”
Avoiding is one more option. “In Mumbai, you won’t find crude leeches; they’re too sophisticated. You can tell somebody’s intentions judging from his demeanour,” says socialite and jewellery designer Queenie.
If push comes to shove, telling off can be considered too. Singer/actor Sophie Chaudhary thinks one needs to make oneself clear, even if that requires raising your voice. “I don’t go to random parties. Guys are intimated by me, which is a good thing. At the end of the day, I’m concerned about my comfort level, my safety, not about how people would be judging me.”
Actor Yuvika Chaudhary knows the way out is to ignore. If dropping hints that you’re not interested doesn’t work, then simply stay away. “Just be prepared. Ignore or politely let them know you’re not interested.”
And if you’re the sort who just can’t say it out aloud, let your bodyguards do the talking. Actor Urvashi Sharma subscribes to that. She recalls, “I was at a party and this guy, a model, drunk out of his skull, comes up and starts chatting with me. He tells me he’d been to jail, got into drugs… maybe he thought it was cool to say these things. I freaked out.
I made an excuse to see my friends and ran away. Most men are stupid, they need to be told off!”