It’s always too early to give up
Actress Dimple Kapadia replies to readers’ queries today.entertainment Updated: Mar 20, 2010 01:22 IST
Hi and I hope this morning is as delightful for you as it’s for me. Why? Well... your letters give me the feeling of hope and bring a smile to my face. Thank you for all your heartfelt moments you have shared with me; the response has been overwhelming and it has actually put us in a spot. We have had to select a few letters actually (three to be exact) to respond to from the entire lot received, the reason being lack of print space. The selection has been random and in no way should you feel your emotion or effort was any less.
Hi! I’m Swati from Delhi. Your column reminded me of my best friend. As you said in your article, it is always good to give surprises to people around you. I want you to suggest me a name for my friend. We are just friends, not boyfriend-girlfriend. I want to give him a name which is ‘naughty yet very sweet and unique’.
Hi Swati! Your friend seems too lovely and I am sure you treasure the moments spent with him. A boyfriend or a girlfriend is just a tag, you would realise when you grow older! You have asked me for a name for him... mmmm.. I’d call him “Issac Newton”, as he is the one who keeps you grounded and doesn’t let you get swept off your feet. A last note: Your email-id is yours and his is his. It’s always best left that way to respect each other’s space.
I have been married for 17 years and had a wonderful relationship with my wife for 14 years. We started having differences when I objected to her growing friendship with a 23-year-old girl from the neighbourhood. She took it in a negative way and started accusing me of intruding in her personal life. Our differences grew but she kept talking to her friend. Our fights became more frequent. Her friend, her sister and mother too tried to make her understand, but to no avail. Now for past six months, she is sleeping in the kids’ room. I’ve tried talking to her, but she says that she is not interested in our relationship and that I should find another woman. I really love her. Please advise.
Hi Surinder! I cannot and will not be judgemental about why? What happened? But your effort shows there is a sincerity to make amends. In most cases like yours, and I say this only because I have seen friends going the same way, this happens because at some point we stop communicating. The conversations stop and soon people begin to drift apart. It doesn’t mean the love has gone out of the window. It’s in such cases that the lost moments of love and hardships that made the bond stronger, are called upon, rather than the moments of weakness and pain. Try recreating those moments and I do hope your wife will see you the way you want her to. The minds will meet once you make the first move. There is lots more to be discovered. It’s always too early to give up.
Hi! I’m Wing Commander Yogyaraj Sharma from Ghaziabad. I am longing to find the whereabouts of my 3 school and engineering college friends and reconnect with them. Their details are:
Sudhir Kumar Saxena, s/o Sia Ram Saxena of Budaun (UP), Classmate at Govt Higher
Secondary School, Budaun from 1956-61.
Nihal Farookh Jalil, s/o Mohd. Farookh Jalil, Classmate at GHSS from 1958-61.
Kashmiri Lal Gugnani, s/o Vidyawanti of Joshi Road, Karol Bagh, New Delhi. Batchmate at Birla Institute Of Technology, Mesra (Ranchi) in Electrical Engg. from 1963-68.
Sir, it’s always a great feeling to reconnect with old friends. Those were the moments that made our lives count and when we look back, a smile envelopes us. Retirement is not easy specially, but then this is the time to relive those fun days all over again. It’s about the happiness of companionship. So everybody there from the Govt Higher Secondary School, Budaun 1958 to 1961… the BITS batch 1963 to 1968. Wing Commander Yogyaraj Sharma is looking out to reconnect with you. It has been a while and I assure you, you’ll will have lots to catch up on.