This week, I realised the malaise of Mumbai: it’s a syndrome called Do And Die. People are constantly doing things! You’re either working, travelling to work, thinking, planning or doing all of it at the same time. Even “chilling” in this city is either ‘doing’ brunch, ‘doing’ coffee or ‘catching’ a movie. And this habit of constantly ‘doing’ something doesn’t ever give us time to just ‘be’. This resistance to just being comes from our own minds which are obsessed with past and future, loss and gain, pleasure and pain and therefore leaves us terrified of the present moment where ‘being’ actually occurs.
Since we all want to be loved and appreciated, there’s always this huge push to work harder and faster but never a drive to slow down, do less and enjoy life a bit more. The world of auditions and films in Mumbai is no different! I could potentially go to 20 auditions a week and eat my lunch on-the-run and out of a ziplock pouch or just skip it...which is actually what I did for years! However, I’m now realising that while professional life may always be a struggle for any artiste, the other sides of life carry on moving. My mom’s not getting any younger, my friends are getting married, my motherly instincts are kicking in and there’s actually a nice world outside of work that needs my attention.
Dil chahta hai...
I’ve now started being picky with my auditions and only go for the ones that excite me! I went to only two auditions this week. One was an ad with MS Dhoni and the other one for an international hair product that is going to be shot in Bangkok. And guess what? I’m shortlisted for both! Whether it’s the brand, the budget or the star in question, I’ve realised that a campaign needs to stimulate the heart, and not just my mind. The results have astounding. I am now attracting bigger brands, better ads and getting shortlisted for the ones that I want to be in and don’t just have to be in!
There’s a tiny secret to success that I discovered before reading up on Deepak Chopra and Ekhart Tolle. It’s called ‘effortlessness’. Being doesn’t mean ‘not doing’, but there should be an element of effortlessness in what we do. It comes with going with the flow, listening to instinct, not trying too hard, not fighting the moment and not forcing yourself. When you go with how you feel, follow your heart and all those clichés, the work doesn’t feel like an “effort”. Every once in a while, you need to let go of the “to-do” list, the grand “plan” and just be.
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