Going Dutch refers to splitting the bill equally. It is a slang indicating that every person sharing a meal in an eatery will contribute to the payment of the bill. The desi version of this practice is called TTMM — Tu Tera Mein Mera — meaning ‘You pay yours and I pay mine’.
The ‘going Dutch’ trend has recently caught up among youngsters. These days, ‘going Dutch’ is a common thing among young people. College-goers are often seen splitting up their bills in canteens, for movie tickets, restaurants and also fun trips.
It prevents embarrassing moments and any rifts between friends. “Whenever we go out in large groups, it’s not possible for one person to pay for all. So we go Dutch. This way, it doesn’t hurt anybody’s pocket,” says Chetna Chhabra of Faridabad Institute of Technology.
“Earlier, whenever someone used to pay for all and later ask for the share, it would become very embarrassing. Sometimes, people refused to pay even after being repeatedly asked, which would then adversely affect the friendship,” says Akshay Kothari of Shaheed Bhagat Singh College.
College students have limited source of money and often cannot afford to pay for the rest of the group, which is why the concept of ‘going Dutch’ is growing by leaps and bounds.
“We are a large group and we regularly hang out together,” explains Vineet Chhabraa, a second-year college student. “Some of my friends are from affluent families while some are from middle class. We pay our bills the TTMM way, so money has never come between our friendship.”
However, it would be wise for boys to avoid ‘going Dutch’ when they ask a girl out on a date, especially if it their very first date. Shailja Anand of Shri Ram College of Commerce says, “If I go out with a boy for a date for the first time and he asks me to pay my share, that would be my last date with him.”
“After all, chivalry is still the most sought-after trait in a guy. But if we go out for a second or third time, I don’t mind sharing the bill,” she adds.