This is not the column I intended to write. I had something else in mind, but going through your letters this week, I found a lot of young people struggling with problems in their lives. I’m twenty-nine, so it’s not that long ago that I was dealing with a lot of the same issues: a girl who didn’t like me, an exam I couldn’t pass, a friend who didn’t have my best interests at heart…it happens.
What may surprise you is how these things have a tendency to just sort themselves out. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve faced insurmountable, end-of-the-world kind of a problem. The kind that I knew, no matter what I tried, would finish me off. But I’m still here. And I’m happier than ever. Allow me to elaborate.
When faced with problems, we tend to look at them through a magnifying glass. We look at all the ways this problem could hurt us, and pretty soon that’s all we can see. But what if you took a step back and looked at the bigger picture?
Nine times out of ten, these problems become completely insignificant in the long run. Janhavi, no matter how many times you’ve been hurt in love, you’ll always be willing to try again. It seems like you’ll never be happy with anyone else, but you will. Aarunima, you think your life is over if you don’t pass this exam, or you don’t get in to that college… I’m not going to lie to you, it will be a setback. But it will not finish you off.
Life throws a lot of hurdles our way. Some people get more of them than others, but I like to think of that as an opportunity. A chance to learn, to become stronger. It’s just like going to the gym. The more you work out, the stronger you become. Similarly, the more obstacles you overcome, the stronger you will be as a person. I can’t tell you how things will turn out for you… heck, I have no clue what the future holds for me, but I’m confident about one thing: It’ll be okay. For you and for me. That’s just how we human beings are built. We’re designed to take a beating and get back on our feet to keep fighting. Your time has barely even begun. There are decades ahead in which you’ll work and play, find love, happiness, you will fight, lose, and you will win again. That’s life. And it’s a whole lot of fun. I promise.
Advait, Rhea, Mariyam and Kaynat, thank you for your wishes and your sweet words. I hope you’ll keep reading! Madhu, things are already underway. You’ll hear more in a few months. Kaustav, I’ve always tried to play characters that my audience could relate to, I’m glad I managed to connect with you.
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