Virginity is overrated, but is it also ‘overdated’? While a ‘virgins only’ dating website, YouAndMeArePure.com, hopes to prove the popularity of the physically chaste, Delhi doesn’t buy the concept. Created by husband and wife Lety and Jose Colin, the online portal invites virgins — both boys and girls — to register and interact with each other in order to find a partner.
The most interesting qualifying question - “Are you 100% virgin, or less than 100% virgin?” (Don’t ask us how they check on that!) If you’re way beyond both, but on the path to celibacy, there’s a sister club you can join — YouAndIAbstain.com. “We were both virgins ourselves when we met, and remained virgins until the day we got married. We are still happily married despite that we entered marriage intimately inexperienced. We see virginity as a major blessing that has given us the opportunity to appreciate one another even more,” say the founders on their website, justifying their decision to embark on the bizarre project.
But the offer has few takers in the Capital. “I would prefer to marry someone who is a virgin, but it is not a necessity. And I shall not resort to applying to a dating website just for virginity!” says Praveen Kumar, a sales executive. Filmmaker Akhil Sharma opposes as vehemently: “The person should be pure at heart rather than being a virgin. The idea of joining such a website is appalling!” The ladies, too, are in no mood to join. “It used to matter earlier, but now, I feel being in love is more important,” says Natalia Ningthoujam, a lifestyle writer.
Mental health experts also agree that chastity isn’t important to relationships. “It is a matter of personal choice for some people to come up with such a website. However, I feel that it is more of a publicity stunt. A relationship depends only on how a person treats his or her present partner, and not what they had done before entering the relationship. Being a virgin doesn’t mean a relationship will be perfect,” underlines psychiatrist Dr Samir Parikh.