It took over three years for the 22-member committee of Satrol khap led by its pardhan Subedar Inder Singh (retired) to gain consensus of hardliner khap leaders to pass the resolution on April 20 to lift the ban on marrying within the khap.
“We had to make multiple visits to all these 42 villages under the khap influence in the past three years to convince them that lifting ban could ease out the problem of finding suitable match,” said Inder Singh, a resident of Baas village.
On what led him to do this, he said that one Vajir Singh of Rajthal village from their khap wanted to marry off his daughter in Putthi village in Pannu gotra and he raised the point in khap meeting on June 21, 2011. He said that since Vajir’s gotra (Mann) and groom’s gotra (Pannu) were under this khap, so they were siblings according to norms.
“There were several cases like this. Parents were not able to find suitable match to their wards outside the khap and they also did not want to marry off their sons and daughters too far away.
These were some of the main reasons that khap people had go to give in,” he added.
Another reason, he said, was that due to the ban, several prospective grooms had entered into contract marriages with women from North-Eastern states.
“So grave is the situation that more than 20 men in my own village have their wives from Assam and other eastern states,” he said.
Explaining the importance of lifting ban, Narnaund Tapa pardhan Hoshiyar Singh Lohan said, “Boys and girls of marriageable age of Mann gotra couldn’t marry with each other, but they can certainly marry in over 50-60 Jat gotra or even inter-caste if their parents allow.”
Stressing on benefits, Kitab Singh Kharab, a prominent leader of Ugalan tapa, said that the educated youth of their khap were forced to look for marital alliance outside.
He said that youngsters were the most elated over the decision as they were feeling suffocated knowing not able to marry in an area of 42 villages of the district.