This is not going to work! Why is it only me that has to go through all this? I’ll never get there — if these are the kind of negative thoughts that often bother you, take the following quiz and find out whether you are a negativistic person.
When others do better:
a. You feel like you don’t have anything to do with it, but deep down think of strategies to help you get there.
b. Feel you aren’t lucky
c. Feel happy for the person and get on with your job.
While waiting for something to happen or for some results:
a. You plan your strategies
b. You prepare yourself for the worst so that you don’t get hurt if the outcome is negative
c. You wait and watch
In most of your relationships with people:
a. You perceive it as mutual give and take
b. You feel you never get enough credit for what you do
c. You feel content with whatever is offered
While under pressure or facing an emergency:
a. You get carried away emotionally and detach yourself.
b. You only think of negative consequences or outcomes that will follow, and panic
c. You stop and think about the situation and implement your plans
While learning or adapting to new concepts or methods, you often tend to:
a. Think how beneficial it will be for you
b. Feel resistant and can’t think of any positive effects
c. Easily adapt and bring in the change
While discussing someone with a decent personality in a group:
a. You think of ways which help that person keep up his/her achievements.
b. You don’t think that he/she is great and criticise.
c. You admire the one being praised.
You like to avoid negative consequences and therefore are usually self-guarded.
You reflect a personality style that appears to be highly negativistic. You feel insecure about situations and assume a negative outcome for the same.
You show you are a calm and composed person. Others find you level-headed and may perceive you as having an easy-going attitude.
Shweta Kansara is a counselling psychologist at Mindtemple. Contact her at email@example.com
Dos and dont’s
Try to maintain cordial relationships. People with negative personalities are difficult to handle.
Trust people. Don’t believe that the world is against you.
Accept that some people may dislike or disagree with you.