If only we knew when we’ve worked enough, rested enough, eaten enough, drank enough…or most importantly spoken enough.
My grandfather used to say, “life is….”. Oh well, have you noticed how a lot of the pearls of wisdom that we love to throw around start with ‘my grandfather used to tell me’. Sadly I can’t use that as I didn’t have the good fortune of having one…both my paternal and maternal preferred moving heavenwards to tolerating me.
But who misses grandfather’s advice when your friendly neighbourhood dhabhawallah turns into a baba every now and then and churns out worldly wisdom in interesting ‘Pindi’ (my term for Pappu Singh’s Punjabish hindi)? “I should start calling you Swami Pappu Singh. Or maybe Baba Pappu Dev.
You know how much money these Babas make?” I asked him one day. “Oh haan ji, but aapko pata hai how much tension all these people who make money go through,” he retorted, adding "Sab tension ka ek hi reason hai madam ji…sab bhaag rahein hain par pata nahi rukna kithe hai” (everyone is running but no one knows where to stop).
“Oh god, what philosophy,” I muttered and got back to nibbling on my kebab but deep inside I knew he had dished out another gem. It’s simple. The reasons for our stresses may be different but the cause is the same…we don’t know where to stop, because we don’t recognize the point when it’s ‘enough’. If only we knew when we’ve worked enough, rested enough, eaten enough, drank enough…or most importantly spoken enough, most of the problems which give us stress would disappear. It’s easy to conclude that not having something is a reason for tension. But believe me, ‘excess’ is a far bigger source of stress, exhaustion, egotism and damaged relationship.
The calmness trick this week is to try and find your own ‘enough-point’…when you’ve accumulated enough possessions, taken enough loans, ploughed in enough hours at work, fought enough with your girlfriend, studied enough to get reasonable marks, watched enough TV for the day…and so on. As G Gaynor, one of my favourite motivation counselors says, “Why make yourself crazy?”
Sonal Kalra thinks there’s an ‘enough-point’ for everything in life. Okay maybe not everything. Like chocolates…and Chaddha ji's eccentricities. Send your calmness tricks to her at firstname.lastname@example.org