A 26-year-old man came to me, complaining that his wife was not getting aroused during sex. He claimed that she was enjoying the act more with fingers. He thought this was abnormal. I assured him that some women do not reach an orgasm without manual stimulation.
I told him, “Masturbating her once you have reached your orgasm may be another option. Giving her an orgasm during foreplay is acceptable. Women are capable of multiple orgasms. Some couples are comfortable with mutual masturbation. The female clitoris, inner-thighs, buttocks and breasts are sites of high sexual stimulus. Take your wife into confidence.Overcoming any guilt about sexual intercourse is a must, prior to enjoying the act. Use of a contraceptive like a condom will go a long way in relieving your wife of any fear of unwanted pregnancy.”
He was asked to bring his wife along for further probing. The art of love making and need for good foreplay was stressed upon.