Older mothers are more compassionate than women who conceive early in life
Contradicting the popular belief that women should not delay having kids, a new study claims that older women prove to be better mothers.health and fitness Updated: Mar 22, 2017 13:38 IST
Women who experience motherhood later in life are more compassionate mothers than their younger counterparts, claims a recent study.
The study is significant considering the widespread belief that women should have children within their 20s. “However, when estimating the consequences of the rising maternal age it’s important to consider both the physical and psychosocial pros and cons,” said researcher Dion Sommer from Aarhus BSS.
Previous research has indicated that a higher maternal age is associated with increased psychosocial well-being during the pregnancy and the early days after the child is born. The new results indicate that the advantages for the older mothers and their children extend all the way into the children’s school age, but decline before age 15.
Why do women postpone motherhood?
When today’s mothers have children later in life than before, it is due to several reasons: We live longer, women have more educational and career opportunities, and contraception has improved. Today (2015), the average pregnancy age is an entire 30.9 years. This also means that most Danish children today are born when their mother is over 30 years old, and that the proportion of children whose mother was over 40 years old when they were born has quadrupled compared to 1985.
How does having an older mother affect the child’s upbringing?
Older mothers are at greater risk of experiencing complications during pregnancy and while giving birth than younger mothers. They are at greater risk of having a miscarriage, giving birth prematurely and having children with deformities.
On the other hand, studies show that older women thrive better during the first part of motherhood. They worry less during the pregnancy, are more positive about becoming parents and generally have a more positive attitude towards their children.
Previous studies that have tracked children up until their school age indicate that children with older mothers - regardless of their parents’ background, education and finances - have a better language and have fewer behavioural, social and emotional problems. This study tracked children of school age and found that children with older mothers had fewer behavioural, social and emotional problems at age 7 and 11, but not at age 15.
The reason is that older mothers have more stable relationships, are more educated and have obtained better access to material resources. But it is also interesting to look at the significance of age when these factors are removed from the equation. In such analyses, age can be interpreted as an indicator of psychological maturity.
“We know that people become more mentally flexible with age, are more tolerant of other people and thrive better emotionally themselves. That’s why psychological maturity may explain why older mothers do not scold and physically discipline their children as much,” noted Sommer.
“This style of parenting can thereby contribute to a positive psychosocial environment which affects the children’s upbringing,” he concluded.
The study appears in European Journal of Developmental Psychology.
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