It might just be good to come out of our fairy tale obsession at weddings.I was scared of saying this before. Because some of you would turn around and question why I’m giving gyan on a subject I may not be qualified to comment on.
2 Over-the-top dressing does not help — neither you, nor the designers. Or even the neighbourhood tailor or ­masterji. I know of a lot of very talented designers who feel so helpless when their clients demand the whole solar system on their dresses. No good ­designer wants to make tacky, over-the-top dresses. It’s the ­commercial compulsions that makes them give in to the demands of the wearer. But it’s important for you to realise that putting pressure on the designer to combine the features (and sequins!) of three dresses into one is not going to make you look thrice as regal and beautiful. It might make you look like a Christmas tree, which is also ­festive, but not through the year. Whether it is a lehenga or gown or sari or bandhgala — too much ‘work’ looks just that, too much.
3 Excessive stress on how you are looking only works towards making you look worse than how you would look when relaxed. Seriously yaar. Ek toh shaadi karne ki galti karte ho, then you get into a ­mission called ‘tayyari.’ The whole world adds to the stress by constantly asking ‘tayyari kaisi chal rahi hai?’, mostly because they have no other conversation topic. You scan looks — of ­filmstars, celebs, friends – to ­figure out the look that you want on your special days. Less ­attention is paid to what suits your body-type and complexion and more to what Deepika Padukone or Ranbir Kapoor wore in a certain film. Then you get onto a shopping spree at fancy shops, where the extent of ‘work’ on the outfits is directly ­proportional to the money you are ready to spend. ‘Lagna toh chahiye kuchh special hai’, say the elders, which roughly ­translates to more embroidery and more embellishments. Eventually, most people end up buying something in which they may cringe and twist in discomfort for the entire duration of the function, but it looks fancy on the outside. Let me tell you something that no friend or rishtedaar under obligation to say ‘Wow’ is ever going to tell you. Sometimes you are not looking good. Sometimes the dress is too gawdy or too tight or too flashy or too uncomfortable. Only you have to judge it for yourself. Base it on your gut feel, not on the going trend. The ­comfort of carrying something that suits your gut makes you look twice as pretty as something that’s trendy for the heck of it. Trust me. And invite me for the wedding. I promise to behave.
Sonal Kalra has a secret ­collection of ball-gowns. She’s just jealous of those who have more frills than her. Mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org or facebook.com/sonalkalra13. Follow on Twitter @sonalkalra