Despite the consistent performance in school, Varun Aggarwal knew that his Class 12 grades could make or break his dreams to study at an Ivy League college. His parents were worried too.
A year later, however, his parents are happy that they supported him through the months leading to his board exam without adding to the mounting pressure. Aggarwal is now a top performer at his dream college in the United States of America.
“As our son was growing up, he had learnt from a very early age that high school was going to be very competitive. So for us, the month just before his Class 12 exams was not very tense. Yes, we felt nervous because marks can be unpredictable but we had full faith in our son’s potential and we never let him know that we were tense,” said Neeti, Aggarwal, whose son scored 97.2% in 2013.
On the other hand, some parents spent the months before the board exams anxiously weighing alternatives.
“We always wondered how Utsav would fare. We were very realistic and we knew his potential. So we did not put any additional pressure on him because that only brings down a child’s morale. We let him be and encouraged him continuously to do whatever he was comfortable with. We were happy with whatever he did,” said Radha Mullick, whose son Utsav managed an 82% in his Class 12 exams last year.
At present, he is a student at the Guru Gobind Singh Indraprastha University.
Academicians advise that students and, more importantly, their parents need to cast aside their worries and focus on the job at hand.
“While it is true that there are some exceptionally good students who aim very high, there are also some who are average or below average. This is the time to stop thinking of everything else and just focus. These students need to focus not on the entire syllabus, but on topics in which they have been doing well, so that they can optimise on them during the boards,” said Ashok Pandey, principal, Ahlcon Public School.