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UGC to outsource NET exam to CBSE

UGC
The University Grants Commission (UGC) has decided to outsource the National Eligibility Test (NET)  for lecturers to CBSE.

Indian Institute of Management, Indore

Eligibility: The candidate must have a bachelor’s degree or its equivalent and must have completed at least five years of ­managerial/professional experience. The ­programme is open to candidates of all ­nationalities.

Monash International Merit Scholarships in Australia, 2015

Monash University is awarding up to 31 merit scholarships for international students. These scholarships will be awarded to undertake full-time undergraduate or postgraduate (coursework) degree at a Monash campus in Australia.
 
Q.
My brother is 17 years old and has recently started attending a lot of social events where free alcohol is available. He is ­gradually getting addicted and has become secretive about his drinking at home. As a sister I am worried as I can see him getting into a vicious cycle with a lot of behavioural difficulties and ­disinterest in any career. I feel helpless. How do I help him? —Worried
-8/20/2014 2:41:00 PM
A.
In these times when alcohol and other substances are freely available and socially ­acceptable, many youngsters get into early and heavy ­drinking completely ignorant of the dangerous ­consequences to life circumstances.

Well, it does mostly begin from social drinking and becomes a habit. It’s time that you to speak to your brother and make sure he is in good mood. Be patient, consistent and polite but firm. Do not accuse him of being a ­substance abuser, but do express your concern ­regarding the issue. Tell him that he should be more aware and responsible.

It is important to let him know that you care for him and understand his situation. And yes, be ­prepared for ­resistance and anger. When confronted, he might defend and blame others for the ­problem, or give excuses for the need to experiment. He may even blame the home environment.

Enhancing social skills will resist the social pressures to drink and indulge in hard core drugs. You can take support like self help groups or peer educators where he can learn more about other people’s ­alcohol problems and similar issues. If needed seek professional help.------- Jitendra Nagpal
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I have an 18-year-old boy who has no faith in religion. I do not like this but I’m not sure how to react. My son believes in the supreme power but not in rituals. He argues that God judges us through our actions and not on traditions. What should I tell him? —Confused
-8/6/2014 12:27:00 PM
A.
Culture and traditions help keep a community together. However, the young generation should not be forced to follow them. I would advise you not to restrain your son from questioning traditions.

In this age, children want justification for everything and not giving them the freedom could confuse him. Try to give him reasons for his argument, along with books on spiritualism or the Ramayana or texts from other religions etc. You can also take him to places of worship and help him understand more about them. Freedom of choice is very important, so he should be allowed to choose whatever he is comfortable with.

Arguments and questions are common at this stage, and as a parent, you should be able to give a valid justification as to why you follow such practices, and allow them to take their own ­decisions. I would recommend an open discussion with him but make sure you don’t get angry. Be sensitive and make sure this issue doesn’t create problems between you. ---- Jitendra Nagpal
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I have a teenage son who I feel has started gaining weight. I understand that weight increase could be normal at this stage but my concern is that he seems to be least bothered about his weight gain. He doesn’t follow a daily schedule, no exercise ­routine. Instead, he gets irritated whenever this topic is brought up. His favourite hobby is watching television, playing computer games, play stations, or eating. How can I motivate him? —Helpless
-8/1/2014 1:36:00 PM
A.
Exercise is the best remedy for not just physical illnesses but also problems related to mental health. It is never too late to start working towards a healthy and active lifestyle.

However, encouraging a teenager to exercise might be a difficult ­process as they are going to be young adults in a few years. So they tend to make their own rules and may probably not understand the value of a healthy lifestyle. They are too young and impressionable at that age.

The best way to motivate them is to be a role model to them. You could start by exercising first and then encourage him to give you company. He could accompany you to the gym or start by playing any sport he likes. This way, you would be able to enter his world and understand things from his perspective too.

Gradually, you could encourage him to make a balanced schedule for the day where he is given equal amount of time to indulge in all his favourite activities —watching TV, eating, playing computer games. At the same time, he must be trained to set apart some time for exercise and outdoor games.

Guide him on the various benefits of a ­disciplined life. It is also very important for you to be firm in limiting his time. As a family, eating habits should be ­regularised for everyone with high-calorie meals a strict “no” for all members of the ­family.

Any close ­approximations to desirable behaviour, in terms of dietary modification and / or engaging in sports or a ­related activity should be ­positively reinforced by acknowledgement of his efforts and public praises. With all these regulations, make sure you are not too harsh to your child and also ensure that you rule out any medical issue related to his sudden weight gain, irritability and loss of interest in doing things. ------ Jitendra Nagpal
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