Bride kicks out drunk groom from mandap
This trend is being seen as a tacit endorsement by women at large of the Nitish Kumar government’s policy of total prohibition, which came into force on April 5, 2016.india Updated: Jun 13, 2017 11:04 IST
If ever evidence was needed to show that Bihar chief minister Nitish Kumar’s decision to impose total prohibition in Bihar with effect from April 5, 2016, enjoys unequivocal support of women, including girls about to enter into matrimony, it is here for all to see.
For the third time in Bihar this month, a young woman in bridal finery has refused to go ahead with her scheduled wedding at the last moment, after finding the groom and members of his wedding party, in an inebriated condition in flagrant violation of the liquor ban.
The incident took place Thursday night at Dumari village in Musahari police station area of Muzaffarpur district of north Bihar, about 75 km from state capital, Patna, across the Ganga river. The adamant bride was identified as daughter of Naresh Chaudhury of Dumari.
In similar developments earlier this month, a bride at Sujatpur village in Buxar district and another one from Bahilwada Gangaulia village under Saraiya police station of Muzaffarpur, last Saturday, had walked out of weddings in the midst of the ongoing rituals, after finding the grooms drunk.
In the latest instance, villagers said the baraatis were also held hostage for the entire night when they created unruly scenes after the bride’s refusal to tie the nuptial knot. It was only on Friday morning that they were allowed to go to Harauli Bhatthi, the groom’s native village in neighbouring Vaishali district.
This happened only after the groom’s family agreed to return the money and gifts given by the bride’s side as dowry. The groom, Chandan Chaudhury and his father, Jai Kumar Chaudhury, remained ‘captive’ till the entire dowry was returned, said villagers.
Sources said all was well till ‘jaimala’ (exchange of garlands), when the bride spotted that the groom and other members of the wedding party were drunk. “The bride refused to go ahead with rituals when the drunk groom and his friends misbehaved with her family,” the villagers added.
When she did not relent, Sohan Rai, mukhiya of groom’s village, was called to resolve the matter.
“Around 6.30 am on Friday, the groom’s family informed me they had been held captive by the bride’s relatives. I reached Dumari and spoke to the bride, but she remained adamant. She said she would not allow her life to be ruined by marrying a drunkard,” the mukhiya said.
The matter was finally settled when the groom’s family agreed to return the money, utensils and other valuables given as dowry. “The groom and his father, however, will stay at the bride’s home till the dowry is returned,” said a villager.
The station house officer of Musahari police station, however, feigned ignorance about the incident. “No complaint has been lodged,’ he said.
The refusal by girls to marry drunken bridegrooms is being seen as evidence of abhorrence of women of drunkenness and a tacit endorsement of Bihar’s liquor prohibition policy under which sale, possession or consumption of alcohol provides for imprisonment of up to 10 years.