We say the grass is greener on the other side. Well, won’t we say that the sun shines brighter, the birds chirp merrily and even the flowers bloom better on the other side? Isn’t that what we all think?
When you sit in your air conditioned office looking out at the school children wishing your school days were back; and the school boy looks at you in your posh office wishing that he could be where you are. When the actor surrounded by bodyguards takes a walk on the beach watching the others enjoy the peace of anonymity, while the others look at him enviously.
It has become a part of our nature to wish for what we don’t have, to pine for what we can’t have and to dream of what others have.
But, is the grass really greener on the other side? Would you really give up your business and want to be a confused adolescent again or would a kid really want to give up his days of learning and playing to be a professional with so many responsibilities?
This dilemma is reflected in the words of Oscar Wilde, “There are only two tragedies in life: One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.”
The truth is that everything has its pros and cons, and you need to learn to be happy with what you’ve got.
This does not mean you give up your dreams and settle for anything less than the stars. But don’t let the search for something else make you lose all that that you have found.
The lyrics of the song ‘I hope you dance’ put it beautifully, “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder/ you get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger.”
If you can accept yourself with your achievements and mistakes, if you can accept your life with its beautiful and disastrous moments, if you can accept the world with its miracles and evils, then you wouldn’t need to look at the other side.