“I wear glasses and look dorky in them, NOT a womanly woman. Definitely not marriage material. Won't grow long hair, ever….”
These are the words that first draw your attention when you log in to Indhuja Pillai’s webpage. This is simply because its uncommon, nay, rare, to come across such candour in Indian women who are expected to ultimately get married and, therefore, raised in a manner which is “marriage material”.
What prompted Banglore-based, 23-year-old Indhuja, aka IP, an engineer by profession, to start her own webpage was an ad put up by her parents on a matrimonial website, according to media reports.
The woman, who lists her gender as “tomboy” on her page, didn’t like the details in the ad and decided to seek out the kind of man she wanted as her life partner on her own terms.
In the three weeks since Indhuja’s website went live, it has attracted the attention of not just women, who have found a kindred spirit in her, but also men and gone viral on social networks.
Not just kudos, Indhuja has even got marriage proposals.
@indhujapillai Your marriage page is a great idea! Are non-Indians eligible to apply to marry you? ;)— Lukas Rosenstock (@LukasRosenstock) February 14, 2015
So what kind of a man does Indhuja want?
“Lookin for: A man, preferably bearded, who is passionate about seeing the world. Someone who earns for himself and does NOT hate his job. Must be flexible with his parents, also means, it's better if he is NOT a family guy. Extra points to the one who hates kids. Points for a great voice and an impressive personality. Should be able to hold a conversation for atleast 30 minutes.”
If you are a man who fulfils Indhuja’s criteria and thinking of sending her “an expression of your interest”, here is a word of advice from her:
“If you think you qualify, I recommend you re-think. If you are sure, I suggest you show this website to your parents. If you're still sure, try imagining a life with someone like me. Unsure? click the 'X' and get back to what you were doing. Sure? Drop me a message on Facebook or tweet to me.”
Till the lady says yes to someone, all you eligible men out there have a fair chance at getting her attention and winning her heart.