Am I a relationship maniac?
1. I am a 23-year-old man. The girl I loved is no more with me due to strong reasons. We devoted three years to each other and were absolutely loyal. Now after she has gone, I feel so lonely and look for care from opposite sex. Am I becoming a relationship maniac? I feel bad when I realize that I am looking for love and care apart from her, as I just could not think of anyone else when we were together. I think it's wrong to look for love again. I just hate to feel that I am in dire need of someone who will be only mine. Am I behaving abnormally? Please tell me what is wrong with me and how can I rid of it? I need your expert advice.
Hubby's taken to alcohol, strip clubs
1. I got married 7 years ago in India and have two kids. Ours was a love marriage. We have been living in the US from last 8 years. We have the Indian marriage certificate. It's been a a stormy marriage from day one. But I keep getting confused over the fact if divorce/separation is an option or not. Till now it was just arguments, and we would usually make up. We both dote on our kids. But now, my husband has taken to drinking, strip clubbing and staying out all night (has done the all-nighters 8-9 times in the last year, even after promising to me again and again that he won't do it)... This is all I know. If there is more (affair or one night stands or anything sexual), then I am not aware of it. I am slowly realizing that my husband is not going to make any changes in his life (even if he wants to, he can't seem to control it) and that in turn is suffocating me more and more in this marriage. It hurts my pride every time he does it and then claims that he loves me a lot. However, my main question is more legal. Can I seek a separation or a divorce here in the US? Or we will have to go back to India for it? Do we have to register our marriage here for a divorce? How will we decide on kids, money, property, child support, alimony, etc? We both have green cards and at the moment, I am not thinking of going back to India after separation...
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: You can take divorce in the US as the law of the land where the couple is residing deals with matters of divorce. You should consult a lawyer to resolve issues regarding child custody, money, etc. and file a petition as suggested by the lawyer.