Ask the Expert: Marriage on rocks
I have an extra marital affair. Being my lover four years younger to me is causing a feeling of guilt. Please help. Submit your queryindia Updated: Jun 30, 2006 13:10 IST
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I am a student of MA (Maths) from DU final year. I did my graduation from DU in BA (Maths). I did MA under pressure from family, as they wanted me to be teacher. I was never interested in it and now even they don't want me to go into teaching. I secured first division in graduation. I want to go into some respectable front office job like in a bank or in place where I can interact with people. I do not want some call centre job. Could you please tell me what should I do now and are there any courses that I can do to help me. I am looking for some decent salary also. Could you also tell that should I apply somewhere so that I can get some job immediately after my post graduation?
Dear, you seem to be passing through a phase where things look more gloomy than they look bright. You are in the formation years of your personality and hence a lot of insecurity and apprehensions. Remember that all these will pass off. You should stop believing that others are all out to cheat you, defeat you and harm you in some way. Take responsibility of whatever you are supposed to do. Do not shun responsibility. Someone who is sincere and hard working gets respect and affection from fellow people.
I am an average student. I know I can be better but I think what I want from my school. It's not giving it to me. I can speak well in English. But I am not giving chances. By this I have lost my confidence. I want to success. I am very depressed. All my friends are just friends not true friends. I feel they don't like me. I feel frusted. Please help
You will have to define your liking. Girls and boys at your age, sometimes earlier also, start liking each other, which they mistake for a deeper emotion called love. I think it would be early to commit on your part. Don’t be desperate. Allow some more time. You don’t even have to worry about losing him as he is your brother’s friend. Allow reason and emotion to blend well and you will know what to do.
A senior in my school has raped me.
Who else knows about it? It is serious and you must talk about it to someone in your family also. First of all I am not sure whether whatever you have said is actually so. As it is you have written so less about it. Do come back to me with some more information. You are very young and there is a great possibility that you might have experienced something less traumatic than a rape. I expect your return mail to me.