Over 500 social activists, village chiefs and intellectuals from the Gujjar community from more than 60 NCR villages on Sunday held a maha panchayat at Mihir Bhoj Inter College in Dadri under the banner of Gujjar Samaj Uthan Mission and took decisions to curb the practice of fat and lavish weddings, now termed by the members "a futile waste of money and a complete show off." There will be no cash gift of more than R101, they decided.
The panchayat decided that only 100 persons from both sides would be allowed at each community wedding. Display and use of firearms have been banned.
No liquor will be served. DJs, fireworks and orchestras are also a strict no-no. There will be no marriage processions or printing of invitation cards either. The emphasis is on doing away with the dowry system too.
The lavish wedding of the son of Congress leader Kanwar Singh Tanwar, a prominent member of the Gujjar community last month was in the news as crores of rupees, were reportedly spent on the arrangements and thousands of guests were invited. The groom was also gifted a helicopter by the bride's family. Those violating these guidelines will face penalties and social boycott.
Members of the community have been visiting villages in the NCR to spread awareness on the issue, asking locals to be part of the panchayat and follow the resolutions. The advisories had been discussed. On Sunday, the community gave its sanction and approved the advisories.
The panchayat was chaired by Ant Ram Tanwar from Gurgaon. Yashwir Singh convened the proceedings. From Faridabad, Ramvir Singh Chandel, Hans Raj Kaparia, Colonel (retd) JR Adhana and others were present at the panchayat. Saharnpur villagers were led by pradhan Madan Pal.
"It was decided that only 100-member gathering would be allowed at a marriage. It will include both from the bride and the groom sides," Yashwir Singh told Hindustan Times on Sunday after the panchayat concluded its proceedings.
"Further, display of firearms is now banned. No revelry gunshots would be allowed. In the past, several persons were killed due to revelry shots. Though the district magistrate has banned firearms, the order is not being implemented. We will now abide by the directive," said Singh.