There are three ways to approach the spiritual process. One way: Slowly by doing the right things through a few lifetimes, you will get there. Another way: You remain in your present circumstances, keep yourself open and focused and make yourself available to your Guru, and when the last moment comes, he will take care of it.
Another way is: You want to know life beyond its limitations now. You want to break your limitations and go beyond. Then you should not be concerned about what is happening around you because many things will happen that nobody will approve of. Society, your family too may not approve because they related to you because you were one kind of person. If you become another kind, they will not be able to relate to you anymore.
They cannot live with you unless they have the wisdom and the sense to see you as a great possibility that ‘My partner has gone ahead. It is wonderful to have somebody who is ahead of me.” Once you recognise that somebody is way ahead of you, that relationship cannot be husband and wife, or mother and son; it will become something else.
So, the other two options are better for a lot of people, that you do the right things, be available to your Guru, and when the last moment comes, he will take care of it. Or you are not even willing to be available but you do a few little things; practise some kind of nourishment for yourself so that somewhere in the future, something will happen. I do not wish that for anyone. Either you must break your limitations now or at least in the moment of death it must happen.
Between you and the ultimate, there is nothing else but yourself – just your own mental structure. If you have to break that, we have to do something in reverse. This is a simple thing you can do: team up with somebody that you do not like. Spend time with that person, very lovingly, joyfully. A lot of things will break. -www.ishafoundation.org