Cellphone destroys marital bliss, almost
Timely counselling saves couple from getting divorced. Vinod Khanal reports.india Updated: Jul 25, 2010 17:31 IST
Addiction to cell-phones, including social networking and tweeting by a woman upset her domestic life and drove the couple to the verge of divorce.
Lata, (name changed), a teacher in a technical educational institute in Naini, and Shantanu, also a teacher, have led a happy married life for the past 15 years. However, for the past few months, Shantanu found a behavioural change in his wife. Earlier, both spent quality time with each other at home after work but for the past few months, Lata was using her cell phone excessively even during talks between the two. Further, when he gifted her a new mobile set, she began updating her 'Facebook' profile and tweeting through phone, even to the extent of neglecting household chores.
This was followed by arguments and spats between the couple and when his wife refused to mend her ways (read curb her love for the mobile phone), Shantanu filed for divorce, citing lack of communication between himself and his wife.
Later, both of them were referred to the Parivar Paramarsh Kendra (Family Counselling Centre) at Police Lines for solving the case by mutual consent. When counsellors asked Lata about her new craze, she said it was equally important to keep in contact with her relatives and friends. However, for the sake of their 12-year-old daughter, she vowed to attend to only emergency calls when she was with her family at home.
"Mobile phone in recent times has evolved as a nuisance. On an average, two complaints are pouring in at the Counselling Centre every week in which sometimes the wife accuses the husband of not giving her time or the husband accuses his wife of disturbing the homely atmosphere by busying herself on the phone," said Rana Parveen, a female counsellor of Parivar Paramarsh Kendra.
She said the newly added features like 'Facebook' and 'Twitter' along with Internet had compounded the problem for those spouses who earlier spent time with each other.
"It is causing more problems in homes where both husband and wife work and one is obsessed with the cell phone while the other wants to talk with the spouse", she said.