Being casual and noncommittal has become part of the urban Indian leg end. Single-dom is a highly prized existential state for Gen Z. Mention the dreaded Cword and they are ready for flight.
So what’s with this generation? Why this paranoia? Scan the cityscapes and you will find an alarming rise in this trend. Web designer Rahul Verma (25) exemplifies it. He has been dating the same girl for the past nine years. But when it comes to commitment he gets cold feet.
The urban Indian woman is also showing reserve for the Cword. Commitment-phobia is no longer gender-specific. Bong bombshell Koena Mitra says, “Till two years ago, I was dating someone but then I backed out. I was the one who took the step. I have no inhibitions in saying being non-committal is not just a man’s forte.”
Jyoti Dayal, a city-based relationship counsellor says, “Fearing the C-word (commitment) is catching up especially with youngsters who form the core of our population. They make their own rules.
Forcing them to commit will only lead to misery.” Psychologist Samir Parekh feels today’s youngsters have a certain level of anxiety when it comes to relationships and they have become too picky.
Actress Kim Sharma who is said to be seeing cricketer Yuvraj Singh, says, “Our generation has lot of options. So, if an affair turns sour we have other things to turn to. Problem with most of us is that we end up meeting the wrong person most of the time. But I believe that if the person is your Mr Right then you will definitely make a commitment. Somewhere in our heart, we know who is made for us.”