For daughters, mothers are the most vulnerable person they come across. You can shout at her, can make unreasonable demands, make her cry without feeling guilty and on an average — for one-fourth of your life think that she is always wrong. But there comes a time when girls experience a change in their attitude towards their moms.
HT City spoke with a few daughters who though, over the years still think that there are tonnes of things that she (mother) can never be cured of, but end up confiding in them like a best friend.
“When I was young I didn’t ever think about mother and daughter bonding, as there were so many things about my mother I didn’t agree upon. The relationship was more like a teacher and a student: listening to what she says, and not doing what she may get angry on. But when I moved to Delhi to do a job, our relationship transformed, and now we are more than friends ,” says, Ritu, a media professional.
Straight from heart
“Mother daughter relationship has always been one of great attachment and love for each other,” says pshychiatrist Sanjay Chugh. “When I was 17, I used to had lot of arguments with my mother. I thought she never understands my point of view. Now after five years, I still think the same on various issues but now our relationship has evolved a little. I think, it’s probably the reason that now, I no longer fear ‘what if she comes to know this’... I think the bonding also increases once there’s no fear of things,” says Neha Mehta, 23.
A healing touch
The bonding between mother and daughter experience many phases. “Before I got married I always took my mother’s efforts and being worried about me, for granted. I never used to listen to her. But, now when I am married, I understand my mother better. I just can’t do without talking to her any single day,” says Shweta Nag, 30, a home-maker.
“After marriage, the mother-daughter bond only goes into a deeper level of understanding of each others’ lives. They relate on same levels, as mothers once, too have sailed in the same boat,” adds Chugh.