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Daughter-mom bond builds up with time

You can shout at her, can make unreasonable demands, make her cry without feeling guilty and on an average — for one-fourth of your life think that she is always wrong. But there comes a time...

india Updated: Feb 21, 2010 01:30 IST
Chetna Joshi Bambroo

ParentingFor daughters, mothers are the most vulnerable person they come across. You can shout at her, can make unreasonable demands, make her cry without feeling guilty and on an average — for one-fourth of your life think that she is always wrong. But there comes a time when girls experience a change in their attitude towards their moms.

HT City spoke with a few daughters who though, over the years still think that there are tonnes of things that she (mother) can never be cured of, but end up confiding in them like a best friend.

Realisation time

“When I was young I didn’t ever think about mother and daughter bonding, as there were so many things about my mother I didn’t agree upon. The relationship was more like a teacher and a student: listening to what she says, and not doing what she may get angry on. But when I moved to Delhi to do a job, our relationship transformed, and now we are more than friends ,” says, Ritu, a media professional.

Straight from heart

“Mother daughter relationship has always been one of great attachment and love for each other,” says pshychiatrist Sanjay Chugh. “When I was 17, I used to had lot of arguments with my mother. I thought she never understands my point of view. Now after five years, I still think the same on various issues but now our relationship has evolved a little. I think, it’s probably the reason that now, I no longer fear ‘what if she comes to know this’... I think the bonding also increases once there’s no fear of things,” says Neha Mehta, 23.

A healing touch

The bonding between mother and daughter experience many phases. “Before I got married I always took my mother’s efforts and being worried about me, for granted. I never used to listen to her. But, now when I am married, I understand my mother better. I just can’t do without talking to her any single day,” says Shweta Nag, 30, a home-maker.

“After marriage, the mother-daughter bond only goes into a deeper level of understanding of each others’ lives. They relate on same levels, as mothers once, too have sailed in the same boat,” adds Chugh.