Lord Buddha had said, “there is no revenge as complete as forgiveness”. This is not just an idealistic maxim. This is the only way to retain our peace. The habit of nurturing grievances is highly injurious to one’s own self.
Forgiveness is a gift of God. This arises from the core of the heart. By forgiving, the poison of revenge dries up. The forgiver becomes the abode of love, happiness, humility and contentment.
The words of Jesus from Mark 11:25 strike us like a beacon of light. “Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone so that God may also forgive you your trespasses. Also, “If you can’t forgive, you can’t be forgiven; yet the wrong you experienced is so hurtful, there seems to be no way to let it go.”
Forgiveness has qualities not to look back at revenge. The two can’t coexist. If we sow the seeds of love, we will have a tree of love with abundance of flowers of compassion, charm and fragrance.
If out of fear and revenge, we sow thorny bushes, we should never hope to pluck bundles of grapes from there. In the same way, we can’t hope ever to create woolen or silken cloth out of rayon.
Forgive and forget is the heritage of the saints and of those who follow them remain cool. Ego is the hindrance in the way to forgive and forget. No relief is possible. The fire is there but it is dormant. It is the ego which is afire. The fire of ego burns the egoist.
The man with qualities of forgiveness never says that he is good, because those who think of themselves as good, goodness never draws near them. The man who can forget is a very strong man.
The span of human life is so short that we cannot afford to waste time and life in such trifles. Get over the bad habit. The best way to do so is to keep ourselves ever busy in any work which absorbs our interest.