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Growing up on Porn

india Updated: Mar 14, 2010 00:02 IST
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Guess what, guys? Turns out pornography, the much-maligned bugaboo of feminists, prigs and holy rollers is nothing more than good, not-so-dirty fun.

The proof comes from the University of Montreal, where recent research showed that porn connoisseurs easily parse fantasy from reality, shudder at the idea of dating a porn star (what would Maman think?) and wholeheartedly support gender equality. “Research contradicts anti-pornography zealots,” gloated a column’s headline in the Calgary Sun.

So, I’ve been contradicted. Presumably, I’m one of the zealots in question. My anti-porn fanaticism took the form of a 2005 book, Pornified, in which I dared to offer evidence that all is not well in the era of Internet porn. Today, 20-somethings, teenagers and even — sorry to break it to you, parents — tweens are exposed to the full monty of hardcore pornography.

Wasn’t it time someone asked some obvious questions? What will happen now that the first generation of men raised on Internet porn is making its way onto the marriage market? What influence does the background blare of insta-porn have on their ideas about women and monogamous relationships?

The answers I found to those questions were less than cheering. In dozens of interviews with casual and habitual porn users, I heard things such as: “Real sex has lost some of its magic.” “If I’m looking like eight or 10 times a day, I realise I need to do something to build my confidence back up.” “My wife would probably think I was perverted and oversexed if she knew how much I looked at it every day.”

Equal relationships

In the years since I wrote the book, I have heard from dozens of readers who described the negative effects of porn.

One was a student at Berkeley, who observed that “ever more deplorable acts needed to be satiated” and noted: “As a child, we are exposed to things that we may not realise have formative effects. As adults, many times we simply continue without questioning.” (Women, it seems, also turn to iVillage.com, where a board devoted to “relationships damaged by pornography” contains more than 32,280 messages to date.)

Yet there’s still so much we don’t know. Perhaps we can learn from the skintillating news out of Montreal. Let’s have a closer look at that — oops, turns out there is no study. Simon Louis Lajeunesse, a postdoctoral student and associate professor at the university’s School of Social Work, has yet to publish a report. His findings, such as they exist, were based on interviews with 20 undergraduate males who detailed their views on sex, gender and pornography in one to two lickety-split hours.

Granted, it’s qualitative, not quantitative, research, but the brevity of the interviews is concerning. While reporting Pornified, I felt the need for more than four hours with many of my 100 interviewees.

Of course, my guys could talk anonymously to a disembodied voice on the phone; the poor fellows in Montreal had to sit down and look a male social worker in the eye before confessing a penchant for three-ways. Lajeunesse asked 2,000 men before he found 20 willing subjects. Most of them, he said, were referred by women in their lives. Hmm.

And just how did Lajeunesse learn that pornography hadn’t affected their views of said women? Why, he asked and they said so! “My guys want to have equal relationships, equal income, equal responsibility domestically,” Lajeunesse told me. Colour me dubious, but I hardly think most men would own up to discriminating against women, spurred on by porn or not.

Let’s talk about sex

To be fair, researching the relationship between men and pornography isn’t easy. My methods had flaws, too. The most methodologically sound study would involve gathering a sample of men, scheduling regular sessions to view online porn, and comparing their subsequent sexual attitudes and behaviours with those of a control group that did not use pornography. Through a series of measures, interviews, questionnaires and observations the data would be collected and analysed by a team of objective academics.

That’s not going to happen now, though it once did. Back in 1979, Jennings Bryant, a professor of communications at the University of Alabama, conducted one of the most powerful peer-reviewed lab studies of the effects of porn viewing on men. Summary of results: not good. Men who consumed large amounts of pornography were less likely to want daughters, less likely to support women’s equality and more forgiving of criminal rape. They also grossly overestimated Americans’ likelihood to engage in group sex and bestiality.

Yet Bryant’s research (conducted with colleague Dolf Zillmann) was carried out long before the Internet brought on-demand porn to a computer screen near you. So why no update? Other than a spate of research in the 1980s and 90s that attempted to link pornography with violence (results: inconclusive), nobody has looked at the everyday impact of hardcore porn. “That’s a catch-22 with most studies about media effects,” Bryant told me. “If you can’t demonstrate that what you’re doing to research participants is ultimately beneficial and not detrimental, and you can’t eradicate any harm, you’re required not to do that thing again.”

Every university has a review board for the protection of human subjects that determines whether a study is ethically up to snuff. “It is commonly the case that when you get studies as clear as ours, human subjects committees make it difficult to continue to do research in that area,” Bryant explained. “Several graduate students at the time wanted to follow up, but couldn’t get permission.” In other words, the deleterious effects were so convincing, ethics boards wouldn’t let researchers dip human subjects back into the muck.

No matter people will take care of that on their own. As one young man explained, after mentioning that “porn may have destroyed my relationship with my girlfriend” in an e-mail: “I always feel that I’m over porn, but I find myself keep coming back to it. There seems to be an infinite number of porn sites with limitless variations, one never becomes bored with it. ... It’s a very difficult habit to break.”

Pamela Paul is the author of Pornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families.

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